still back

[phoenyx]

Feeling better today. Slept okay last night. Not really much else to say, just gotta have a little faith in her I guess.

[fig]

hey tiger

have faith in yourself

how is that for a little platitude

but it is the truth

you need to have faith in you

[phoenyx]

i'm frustrated. that is the only word i can think of. this was a good relationship. i believe it would have lasted. early breakups aren't that uncommon. if it is meant to be i guess, she will see the truth. what i am frustrated about is that xw got involved in my life. yet another person, thinks something of me other than the truth. i can't do this anymore with her.

[phoenyx]

reality sunk in...she is with the other dude. ehhh well. frank kind of put me at ease when i said it's just like xw. it isn't, we were planning a future and in a loving relationship 2 weeks ago. time to put my big boy pants on, let her do what she's gonna do. i'll call her in a couple weeks. if it's right it'll work, if not, better i know now

[phoenyx]

bleh... just kind of thinking at this point it's easier to write her off. it's better than missing her.

[phoenyx]

from an article i read. is this why my ex makes my life hell



I should, however, clarify that there are exceptions to making elegant breakups. While you should always maintain a pleasant demeanor (mean behavior does not help anyone), it is perfectly acceptable to let your disappointment be known when the person has hurt you by cheating or otherwise breaking the rules of the relationship. Such honorable behavior might earn you the respect of your partner and also make her/him realize the gravity of the situation. In fact an approach like this might even make the relationship work again. As Dr. Robert Huizenga, author of the book "Break Free From The Affair" points out, "80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision and over 75% who marry partners in an affair eventually divorce."

[phoenyx]

No contact for a week. Emailed with a friend that works with her last night, apparently she is showing pictures of her and new dude to people. Everyone thinks it's strange. So I woke up early this morning and there was another email from my friend and he said that he heard she was saying that she has been with dude for over a month. I had to break no contact, sent this email to all of her addresses....

me:
Hi, someone told me that you said you have been seeing this dude for over a month. Is this true? We had sex within the last month, and if it's true I need to know.
her:
nope, now leave me alone
me:
k, thanks
her:
sure, and if (friend) has any other questions, he can feel free to contact me, as for you, like i said, lose my e addresses
me:
sure thing gorgeous, take it easy
her:
don't call me gorgeous
me:
k, hot stuff
her:
you're sick
me:
not really, just a smart @$$. look, i'm not trying ot be a d!@k. just had a question. take it easy f


i don't understand the anger in this woman. i am sending some stuff to her today and have a note that says

hey gorgeous, came across this stuff and figured (son) would want it back. hope you two are doing okay.

ugh, that will throw her off her rocker

[Bworl]

Leave her alone.

You ARE being an ass now.

When someone says they want to be left alone, and you start talking to them like you are still intimate partners, that's being an ass.


Right or wrong, this woman has turned on you and decided that she wants you exorcised from her life.


Your ex is doing a good enough job running your name into the ground. You don't need another woman wanting to do the same.


I'm sorry it turned out this way. I get that this was a special one to you.


Be the better person and walk away.


Enough already.


Blessings,

Bill

[phoenyx]

i have been leaving her alone. but i am not going to lay down. she didn't have to say anything after i said thanks. and i am not going to not be me. weather i love her or not, she needs to know that i am me. i am not going to fake it anymore.

[Bworl]

There's nothing manly about throwing your verbal weight around because someone hurt you.


You sound like a petulant child.


You do realize that THIS behavior only reinforces whatever negative FALSE information she has been fed.


Why are you being such a child with this? You've been on this board for a LONG time now. You know how all this is supposed to work.


Bill