I trapped my first feral cat. He (?) is at the vet right now and should be 'fixed' by this evening or tomorrow. It was much less scary than I thought. He was very calm and relaxed. I'm so glad I got an easy cat for my first go around.
Will update more in a bit.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Last night I just used a can of 9 Lives. On my first two (unsuccessful) attempts I used tuna and canned mackerel. That cat food had a very strong stench aroma!
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Other than my cat business, not too much new to report, which is fine by me for the time being. I certainly don't care to live the rest of my life like this, but things could be much worse for me.
I'm going kayaking with my meetup group on the 15th of June. Cannot wait! I've been trying to get my husband to go kayaking with me since we got married... we went canoeing once, but the OW went with us. Actually, this was before their 'connection' really developed into something I consider inappropriate. I miss the good ole' days. By the way, Kerry, I believe I learned about meetup on your thread, so thank you for sharing with us. I'm really looking forward to this trip! It seems like a nice group of people. Although I did get a 'shout' from another member that kind of creeped me out. I should edit my profile to say something about being married or my husband. Maybe I'll take my photo down, too. It was an 'innocent' shout but it just seemed kind of odd to invite someone to go sailing with you when you've never met before.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
You would have trapped me using yummy tuna and canned mackeral.
Even if you were single, that is weird that someone would invite you to go sailing for a first date. Which reminds me of a time I took my prior girl friend out on my sailboat for the first time. It was probably around our 6 or 7th date and as I was perfoming the difficult and tricky job of backing my boat into its slip, she decided to ask me if I beat women. Such an "off the wall" type crazy question like that totally threw off my concentration and I had to make a second attempt at mooring the boat.
Congratulations on helping your first feral cat. And now we know the way to our spouses heart is yummy tuna and canned mackeral.
The kayaking sounds fun. You can't help it, imp.. you are babelicious.. the guys just can't help themselves. You're wise to protect yourself though.
Only you know what works for you. I've been waffling about letting go. My therapist said if I'm unsure, the answer is no. The hardest part is thinking of the hole divorce will leave in the hearts of my children.
It's a process. Walk with pride. Embrace your strength. Be the beauty you are. You are creating your path.
Only you know what works for you. I've been waffling about letting go. My therapist said if I'm unsure, the answer is no. The hardest part is thinking of the hole divorce will leave in the hearts of my children.
*hugs*
Gypsy is right on the money with this one. I have talked to may dad quite a few times about D (hes a D atty) and his advice is and has been that it should be the last resort and you have to be ready for it. He said that even the D's that were "friendly" left scars. Its just a really hard thing to go through and until you are sure in your heart that its what you want, then my advice would be the same. If you have a doubt, your not ready.
Hang in there sweetie, you are doing so well. You already have a stalker...lol! I mean you offer tuna and mackerel? A double threat! Keep your chin up. Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Today is the first day I've cried in so long. Not bad, just a few tears. I'm pretty sure PMS has something to do with it. I just feel a little lonely for my marriage. It's so empty. Blech.
I was reading another thread, the one asking what rejection will make you do... she basically assumed their marriage had a non-verbal agreement to exist without a sexual relationship and she thought they were both fine with it. Anyway, the husband had an affair, but now he wants to work on the marriage. The wife is very angry and having a hard time forgiving, etc. I don't think the affair was justified, but I can understand why it happened. Six years in a sex starved marriage... I can't even imagine. I haven't even been married that long. ANYWAY, the whole thing got me thinking and analyzing.
I've always TRIED really hard to be a good wife. Home cooked meals every night. Lots of head and back massages, lots of praise, lots of EFFORT put in to my marriage. Am I so inadequate that it's not really worth trying to save us? It's frustrating to try to articulate what I'm feeling. My words do not flow effortlessly. Ack. Trust me, I know I haven't been perfect. I've made many mistakes. TONS and tons of mistakes. But I've really tried to be a great wife.
I gotta get in the shower. I'll check in with everyone later. Hope you all have a happy day.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
I've always TRIED really hard to be a good wife. Home cooked meals every night. Lots of head and back massages, lots of praise, lots of EFFORT put in to my marriage. Am I so inadequate that it's not really worth trying to save us? It's frustrating to try to articulate what I'm feeling. My words do not flow effortlessly. Ack. Trust me, I know I haven't been perfect. I've made many mistakes. TONS and tons of mistakes. But I've really tried to be a great wife.
Yes, b/c I don't think it's about us really or how good a wife and/or mom we are, but it's about our WAS basically running away when the R has problems, the WAS thinking maybe the grass will be greener, or they want less responsibility or maybe this OP will be better for them. Sorry, I'm not that positive today, GFI, I'm not having a great day--I've noticed my lower days are usually the days that I see my H.
