Hello darling, I hope you are having a gorgeous evening!! I would say, follow H's is lead and keep the lines of communication open. After such an intense discussion continue to keep communication flowing at whatever pace he sets. He probably needs you to show him (not tell him) reassurance after such a heavy talk. And also if he is feeling like he really screwed up he probably needs your friendship too!!
Hi Lisa! Reading your brief synopsis, it really really felt to me that his odd mood and detachment is ALL about him and not to do with you..else, he wouldnt contact you! If it was in any way to do with you, he would withdraw? He sounds a bit miserable I suppose, reading between the lines, I think that was what you were inferring? He is acting quite odd if you think about it.. he leaves his lovely W for no good reason for a trashy veg brain and then he sees her, but then continues to see you, and cant bring himself to tell you about it either way, nor to stop seeing you and also, he tells her he wont stop seeing you and when he sees you, he holds hands and snogs you and presumably doesnt tell her what hes up to, but she texts him when hes out with you, but he ignores it and then makes more dates with you and...
PHEW! Try being him for a moment !??? The word flailing springs to mind.
Keep being the greener grass! Oh and Thai Green curry is my favourite too! I LOVE thai food, I'm up for a virtual thai meal!
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
A back up if I can't tempt you to swim the Atlantic to me Jeff! (((hugs)))
((((Jen)))) ((((T)))) Great advice- thank you. I have to remember that however hard this is for me, it's got to be 100x harder for H. So I need to focus on being patient, and finding a hot top to wear on Tuesday!
He is acting quite odd if you think about it.. he leaves his lovely W for no good reason for a trashy veg brain and then he sees her, but then continues to see you, and cant bring himself to tell you about it either way, nor to stop seeing you and also, he tells her he wont stop seeing you and when he sees you, he holds hands and snogs you and presumably doesnt tell her what hes up to, but she texts him when hes out with you, but he ignores it and then makes more dates with you and...
LOL Ali- that made me choke on my tea! You really do have a way with words and that's a really good summary of his confusing behaviour!
You're right about the tone of the e-mails. I'm reading unhappiness between the lines; the actual words are OK, it's just the overall tone. Something isn't right with him. Obviously, confusion is probably a big part of it, as he said himself.
YAY for the virtual dinner. We should set a date. Maybe a Friday, and we can make a special thread called 'Virtual Dinner Party'! So exciting!!
There's a new Brit over in newcomers, her username is Julia. I just posted to her & I thought I would alert you -- if you have time to post to a newbie I am sure she would be excited to hear from another UK-er!!!
(((hugs)))