yeah she has but it seems she is coming and going. So I guess that is to be expected, she made my dinner plate last night, dont knwo when the last time she did that, could even tell you off the top of my head. But Im just looking forward to going to the R weekend and getting things moving forward. I leave for El Paso on Friday morning so I will not be able to post until I get back around the 9th. So please keep us in your prayers, I really appreciate you all. God Bless
Thank her for all the small things she does...and do your best to keep doing it all the time. However, don't go overboard with it, thank her once for something nice, but always thank her when it is deserved.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I'm back and it is 16 days until our retrouvaille weekend. The vacation to texas was great, we talked alot and the anxiousness we both felt before is gone almost. It seems so different that now i feel I can talk to her again. She even told me she is thinking about stop seeing her therapist because she is sort of putting things together now, and wants to work on our marriage. So here i am, so I believe or not believe?
Yeah I feel the same way, but I only offered my input after she asked me. I'm just hoping to keep the positives going and finally up out of this rut we have been in. I'm working everyday to keep things going in that direction but I know it will take time for all of this hard work to pay off. I will continue to be patient, and make the correct moves when need be.
Well it is only two days away and I'm trying not to have my nervousness show. The thing I'm trying to deal with is my emotions, I mean I sometimes get mad at this whole situation,even angry at times, but I leep it all inside. Not trying to stir things up or point blame. But thats my issue now, my emotions, at one point she was ready to walk out of my life with another man who she thought was everything. Now she tells me that she was thinking since things have gotten alot better that she does not think we need retrouvaille. I was like well, I still want to go. I do not want to go through this again, and if they can show us different ways to communicate than I'm all for it. And if things are truly getting better, than why not go to this weekend event so we can make sure we are reconsiling the right way, and not just going through the motions again sort of speak. And then we will find ourselves right back here again. She agreed so I will let you all know how it goes after the weekend. I know thisis going to be a tough 3 days but my marriage is worth every bit of it and more.
Thank you, I will definitely let you know especially how my weekend worked out. I know I have alot ot say about how she treated me and the pain I felt through out our situaion. I have to get this off my chest, it is no way I can go on, acting as if I'm over what she did to our marriage, and family. And I thank after I say what I need to say, I will feel alot better and we as a couple can get on the same page for the first time in a long time.
Well Jack tonight is the night, I have been waiting for. IT has been two months since we signed up to go to retrouvaille. NOw tonight is it, no kids, no phones, no interuptions. I know this is not going to be an easy weekend, but I have to for myself see if we are in this marriage together. OR is it just me and she is playing the role. I have alot of things I want to say, alot of stuff I want to get off of my chest. I need to let her know how I feel about what was going on, and how things have been going through out her supposed return to our marriage. I just need to keep it in perspective, and I do not want to come off like I'm attacking her, but she needs to know what she did to me. She needs to know, what I felt, and what I'm prepared to do. Hopefully, we come out of this a stronger, more loving couple, but I have to put my foot down. She has to know Im not going to put up with this again. If she feels that being with someone else will make her happy, than thats where she needs to be. but like I said I'm hoping we can become closer, I even told her such, it is a way that we can get closer as a couple than I'm all for it. She agreed, but we will see. Let the retrouvaille begin, I will give you an update on MOnday morning Jack, and thanks for all the discussion, I really needed it.
