has she apologized yet and had a makeout/ makeup session? this seems ALL GOOD to me. if Retrouvaille is all set she is proabably wanting this to work so just take it in stride...she may get scared and back off but i wouldnt think that would mean antying but her own fears...
Pisces M 31 H 32 M 7 yrs S 5/10 Beginning Contact! Vibes Hot Tub Cheese
Thank you, yes she has apologized, she told me that there is no contact with the two of them what so ever, she said it is over. She told me that nothing never happened between the two. So we sort of had a confession session like 4 am this morning. I could not sleep, so i was tossing and turning wondering is this real or is this just another lie. But she came out and said she is to blame and what she did was wrong. She said she does not want to go back to the way things were between us, she wants it to be better than it was. So I promised that the changes im making are not just to get her back, but to be permanent. So it is getting alot better. We go on vacation on Friday to her home town in El Paso texas, so I;m looking forward to that.
And yes I have been letting her lead the way. She is trying to make plans for us to go to rioduso, just us two. And also she stated that she wants to see if we can find a baby sitter like once or twice a month so we can go out for a few hours. So like i said I'm very optimistic right now, just dont want to read to much into her words right now, for I still have a feeling she is'nt thinking clearly. She told me alot of things she has not told me before, last night, so it seems thereis starting to be a beginning to our commmunication problems opening up again. So I just told her well with the signs and signals you are sending me it is safe to say you want us to work on our relationship and move forward and she said yes. Because my wife is not vey talkative when it comes to things of this nature, but she told me she stated to realize the pain and hurt she was putting me through and it was not right. So I'm just trying to put it all in perspective right now. it is 31 days before we go to RETROU. So I'm going to keep my course of actions and stay low for right now.
Tell you what, here is some advice. Help her plan this, find a babysitter or call the one you usually use. Do something helpful that is different from what you normally do. Find something to do on your vacation as an 'idea' and present it to her.
Your changes...make them stick.
Good for you on the talking. Is it MLC. I do not know. Its not in my area of knowledge for what she did, to open up like that, without a whole lot of time and pain before hand.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I know as a mother I always hated having to be the one to make all the plans for what to do with the kids and wanted him to take the intiative a few times in that area.
Sometimes its nice to have things done for you.
BFM
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
Ok, thank you very much. Im trying but the weekend was a very good one. And I did tell her when I was talking to her that I did'nt feel the anxiousness anymore, it had gone away. And the pain sort of subsided a little. And she told me she felt the sameway. I'm hoping that this is it, I mean she seems sincere, but only time will tell.
