The good thing is that you have these days! Don't spend the happy, independent day of promise and joy, planning for the crash day.
Ride it out and have fun. Because this is how your life eventually WILL be. The crashing is the setback, this is the glimpse of the reality you are working toward.
My fiance's ex-wife made him miserable and we finally found each other and I'm faithful and love him so much. I feel very lucky.
And whether your future mate turns out to be your wife or someone else, this is what you can and will have because you are now on a path that you will accept nothing less.
Goddamn dude,sorry I wasn't on here to offer support.
I had to check out of this place and GAL for a while,and well,I may have done too good a job.Done with my W for awhile.I'll update my thread later.
Gonna settle in and watch Lost tonight.
My thoughts go out to ya.She revealed herself.Now you find your real self.In the long run,you'll be such a more awesome man for it.
Me:34 W:31 Daughter:6 Married:5 years on May 24 Seperated from Sept 07 to Nov 07 2nd Seperation Mar 28 08 til now EAs/PAs on both sides since then Received divorce papers end of August
You'll learn to be thankful for the days that you feel strong and able to handle all this. I'm sure you will still cycle back and forth. When you're down, remind yourself that there will be better days.
A pullback emotionally is good for you in the long run. The work ahead of you will be draining, both physically and emotionally. Make good use of this time to get yourself solid and care for your daughter.
When you're feeling stronger, it's time to form a battle plan for how you want to proceed.
Remember, nothing is over yet.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
Yes, I know. I'm sure its going to come back but man I still feel fine with stuff. It weird.
JB,
No problem. I work in front of a computer all day so I'm always on line. I was wondering what is going on with your sich. It was a shock on Tuesday for me, but it makes sense. Should've listened to the veterans on here. Oh well. I'm getting past this. Its all about Abby! I'll check in with your sich. Time to watch Lost on DVR.
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
I came back from lunch and was surfing my myspace account. Suddenly I noticed my wife was gone from my friends list. She deleted me. Obviously to hide more of what she's doing. Why this bothers me I don't know, but I think she is 100% of out my relationship.
She's not the brightest either because he site is public. I took a look and of course OM was added plus a handful of other guys from around town. Just another slap in the face and now my good mood of the last 2 days is going fast. Who is this person?
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
Okay, I really blew it....did a 180 on DB. I sent a yelling, PO'd email to W. Basically said, I don't care what the F%$K she does, I don't want to see or speak to her unless its about Abby. I told her I wanted to file D next week.
The more I think about it, the more I realize what a F'd up place she put us. Not only the family sitch but financially. She put us in a deep hole and does not care. Honestly, I've been debating in my mind the last 3 days....if she suddenly came back and said lets work on M, I don't think I could. I don't think I'll ever trust her again and the sh!!t she's done is in the way of any love I have left. I think I need to move on, sooner than later!
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
you'll "crash" again. Be prepared. But it will last less and it will be "familiar", so easier to handle. At least, that's what happened to me. It comes in waves and we learn to deal with it. Hang in there K
Crash.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
The more I think about it, the more I realize what a F'd up place she put us. Not only the family sitch but financially. She put us in a deep hole and does not care.
AD, you've just described about every relationship on the MLC thread, and probably quite a few on here.
That's what makes this hard. Everything inside us screams out for justice and retribution.
Part of us hates them and what they've done.
Another part, a part you're not hearing at the moment but will eventually, still loves them and hopes it's not over.
So you crashed.
What's done is done.
Be interesting to see how she responds.
You shouldn't respond anymore.
Breathe.
Be prepared for the backlash INSIDE Of YOU.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
