I think this is what he intended for LBS to read, it's from page 4 on the thread he linked.
To all the LBS, specifically Husbands. My H is driving me crazy. Please let me share some of his behavior that is causing me to want MORE space.
He keeps asking me if I love him. Here's my answer;
Please don't ask me this. When I say I love you, on the phone or e-mail, I mean it. When I don't say it, it's my choice, & doesn't mean that I don't love you, I just don't feel it as much at that moment.
When you ask me to say it, I feel pushed. We've come a really long way in 12 months. Last June I said I hated you & I never wanted you to touch me again. Please be happy with the progress we've made so far. Please recognize that healing takes time. I need more time. I'm asking you to be patient with me. Feelings don't die or blossom overnight.
He keeps asking for reassurance, I don't have any right now. He wants intimacy, I'm not ready. He wants to talk about our R, which reminds me constantly about our problems. He wants a long term commitment. I keep telling him, I'm here, I'm friendly, I'm laughing, I'm trying, I'm going to MC, I'm working at this, I'm reading books that tell how to save the marriage. Isn't that enough ???
No matter how much I do/give/say, he seems to want more.
I'm going away with my mom for 4 days, I'm so excited about the BREAK from R talk, & R issues. Ugh !!!
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
