Okay kind of dorky title but I wanted to leave "happy" in there, and I feel I am taking the high road by being upbeat and positive in interactions w/H.
So, the only news is house-related. The guy flushed my offer of 5,000 under and came back with 1,000 under. GRR! I called and told the realtor what H said about the economy, stock market, gas and oil prices, high unemployment, etc. This is supposed to be a BUYER'S market! She responded that the seller told her he went in several homes listed at the same price as his before listing last week, and that his looked the best. She agreed that it did, and apologized for him being stubborn.
Dan and I discussed it. He said if it were him, he would walk away from the deal. I pointed out that 2 previous homes we purchased cost this same price, he said they were much better homes. However, one didn't have a finished basement, and none had fenced yards (I want that if we are living in town). This one has both. He wasn't exactly convinced, but he said a difference of $4K is only like $15/mo over the life of the mortgage, so do what I thought was right if I wanted the house.
Then his mom called at 10:00. I had told Dan about a medical issue I am having (suffice it to say I have an exam with my Gyn. this afternoon and will be setting up a mammogram to follow). Apparently Dan shared that with MIL!!! It bugged me b/c I thought of it as personal and haven't even told my own mom....
Anyway she brought up the medical thing then asked about the house. I relayed the sitch to her. Then I layed in on thick about how I already envisioned my furniture in the house, loved the backyard, it is 1/2 mile from my school, etc. etc. She always shares stuff like this w/H.
So I texted H this morning, saying I would like to match the guys offer of $1K below asking price as long as he pays for the home warranty instead of us, what are your thoughts.
He replied "Do what you think is best. If it is the one you want get it". I hope that was support and not sarcasm...
It would have bothered me if H shared something like that with his mom too. What can you do though? What's done is done.
I think the seller is being a little stubborn too. I don't know the price of the house or your personal market, but this is not the time to be stubborn. If he turns down your offer, he could find that house sitting on the market for months. That would be a mistake, in my opinion.
As for the text, it is so hard to detect tone in those things. I would just read it exactly for what it is. Just assume it is support.
I'd shoot for 2500 and he pay for the warranty. If he went and looked at all these other houses.. that says to me.. there are alot for sale.. and they are not moving either.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
I'd shoot for 2500 and he pay for the warranty. If he went and looked at all these other houses.. that says to me.. there are alot for sale.. and they are not moving either.
He makes a good point. I say make a little more aggressive counter offer. The worst he can do it turn it down.
I agree with Forrest. He'll counter again and you'll get a little better deal.
On a separate note, I know that it bothers you that he told his mom about your medical issue (hope you are alright), but I think that its a sign he cares/loves you and is worried. Yes, he is immature telling her, but we have already agreed he is acting like a spoiled toddler haven't we?
Yeah I hope he told his mom b/c he is worried about me. That kind of thing doesn't just "come up" in casual conversation.
As per the house, there are5 in my price range. That's right, five. And the ones that already sold are very nice and priced about 15K over my price range. The ones (4) left other than the one I am bidding on are all trapped in 1976-1982. Ick! "My" house is the only one with brand new paint, brand new carpeting, 4 yr old roof. Also totally updated kitchen, all new appliances,etc. It also has a 2 car garage and all 4 other ones have 1-car garages. and a walk-out basement.
Yeah, I am "pursuing" my house! But I am moving in 3 1/2 weeks and I need to know I have a home. I love it.
Don't know if H is distancing or not. We signed the offer paperwork as "joint tenants". And he was talking about how he was going to miss our house in K.C., sharing stuff with me last night.
All I know is that I am basically acting "as if" we are split up. B/C the last talk we had regarding R was that H had "no intention" of working on things. The only other R-related communication since then was the text that said, "I know how to fix this, just don't know how to make it right." But unless/until he actually tells me he wants to work on us, I am looking at is as he is helping his family get a house and get settled...
She responded that the seller told her he went in several homes listed at the same price as his before listing last week, and that his looked the best. She agreed that it did, and apologized for him being stubborn.
