First there was (is) the longterm A where stbxh couldn't decide what he wanted.
Then, he filed but still went back and forth on whether or not he wanted to try to reconcile - obviously not, since he never took any action end it w/ow.
Now, he is insisting on living in our house until it sells... Seems like moving in full-time w/ow isn't an option - at least not until he can support her!
So, I will be D in a month and nothing is going to change. I will still be living in limbo he!!. Walking on eggshells in my own house. Would it be mean to shake things up and tell ow that stbxh frequently tries to initiate sex with me?
In the meantime, I still struggle every time D4 leaves with stbxh to stay overnight at ow's. Last night was particularly hard. D4 cried out for me and then, got really quiet after I put her in the car to leave. I worry so much about her. She is such loving child and being without her Mommy OR her Daddy for more than a short time makes her so sad. Maybe I'm being paranoid but she seemed to change when she knew she was going to ow's for the weekend. Maybe she hates it.. Maybe she doesn't.. All I know is that my radar is on high alert!
One final thing.. I finished my first 5K race. Time was ok.. I'll do better in the next one. Something to strive for
Olive- Good to hear from you.....I was wondering where you had disappeared to. Considering the circumstances, you seem to be doing pretty well. Hopefully you have someone you can vent to when your frustration builds up.
So what exactly was your time????? Is that impolite to ask?
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
My time was not that great but I was about mid-pack for my (old) age group.. I am pretty happy that I ran the whole thing though. Am going to do a few more this summer if I can. It was a great motivator to start exercising consistently again!
Oh.. and MC.. yes, it's impolite to ask. Next thing you know you're going to ask how old I am and how much I weigh..
So glad to see you back Olive! And the cool thing about starting running is you can work on getting lots of PRs for you! My H has been running for 20 years and his times don't usually improve that much! I am thinking about starting running too, just a little bit, probably not up to the 5K level though!!! Karen
LO, glad to hear from you again. Congrats on fininshing the race. I am not the exercise type bue since this fiasco started, I am learning to take better care of myself and started exercising more. I still don't enjoy it much but am getting used to exercising on a regular basis. Feels like it is something I have control over and something I can accomplish. Great for you to plan on doing it more.
>>Would it be mean to shake things up and tell ow that stbxh frequently tries to initiate sex with me? <<
Is it "mean" for XH2B to use the house as a place to stay until he can support OW? And force you into having to live with all this? Is it "mean" for XH2B to try and set up OW as baby sitter and "full-time mom" for D?
Do you enjoy having XH2B living there with you, or would you rather get him out of the house?
Would you like to see the tables turn and have OW become suspicious, jealous and insecure?
Olive, I don't think I'd outright tell OW about the situation (that might make her suspect you are doing it to make her jealous), but I'd hint at it... I'd probably send H a sexy text message when I knew he was with OW. Also, I might even try to make being at the house uncomfortable for H and act like he's driving me sexually crazy being there in the house! I might mention to OW how difficult the sexual tension is in the house for both of you. Hee hee!!!! And I'd tell H how I find it hard to resist him... even though I really didn't!!!!). That may scare him and get him out of the house.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Good points Root.. There are so many things that stbx and ow have done that are just downright mean. But, we need to take the high road, right? So, the question really is.. how to be slightly evil but also take the high road
Originally Posted By: runningoutoftime
I don't think I'd outright tell OW about the situation (that might make her suspect you are doing it to make her jealous), but I'd hint at it... I'd probably send H a sexy text message when I knew he was with OW.
Funny! She is veerrry insecure already...
Originally Posted By: runningoutoftime
And I'd tell H how I find it hard to resist him... even though I really didn't!!!!). That may scare him and get him out of the house.
I think this might backfire... I don't think it would scare him at all!!
Isn't is ironic that they are so committed to each other and building a life together and yet they aren't even honest with each other. That's what got us all here in the first place, though, isn't it??
CONGRATS on the race. I run my first one on June 21st. Eeek!!!!
Sigh. The quiet, withdrawn D4. I know from experience that quiet is even more painful to witness then a tantrum. My heart breaks for your D4 and for you. Thinking of you.
