Ok here is my situation. I am in my first week of separation and I have taken the kids on a vacation for the week while the W worked and then took some time at a casino resort to unwind. Leading up to the spearation was very mild....she mainly said she wanted space, etc. I suspected she was having a mid life crisis. I did not want this separation
So here is how things have unwind so far
Tues - She texted me a couple times to see what we were up to and called to tell the kids goodnight. I played it cool and didn't initiate any contact...just basically said I was having a good time
Wed - A little more of texting but she started earlier in the day. Again playing it cool....waiting a bit before replying to any start of a text, etc. She actually called to tell them good night after they went to bed
Thurs - She started texting even earlier, and called and we talked a little bit. She was staying at the casino resort for the first time that night. She said she didn'tknow what she was going to do there all by her self. I told her that she should enjoy her peace and quiet, she has been wanting it.
Fri - She is initiating more and more contact. Again I play it cool, but she seems to be more and more talkative. She even sent me a text saying that she was getting her hair cut and colored now (as if I wouldn't be able to contact her during that time....I haven't been). That night one of her friends was coming to stay at the resort with her and they were going to go out.
Sat - She called a little after 10 this morning and said she didn't know what she was going to do that night. Her friend was going home and told her she should enjoy the peace and quiet. I got the impression that she was hoping that I would invite her over to the condo I rented (it is about an hour away). Should I wait to she invites herself? Should I extend an olive branch without any hope attached.
Any thoughts are appreciated.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
If it were me I'd ask her over. BUT the DBer in me says to keep her hanging. She wanted this and now she has to see what it's like to not have her family around whenever SHE wants.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Yeah, It was tempting not to ask her. I think she was hoping I would, but when I didn't I think her friends decided to stay with her a little while longer....she probably seemed lonely.
Tonight she has been texting me from the buffet line telling me about how she is starving. For someone that doesn't want me around she sure is finding things to talk about...though I think it would be a long time before she said anything profound like getting back together....but I am frequently wrong.
Her mother called me today to see how the trip was. She volunteered that she had been talking to her while I was going saying that a lot of women would find me a very good catch (good looking, good shape, good job, great father, and very attentive). She then asked her about how she would feel about me living with someone else and my W got very silent
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
