my latest drama made my old thread locked up, lol!
All well in catland. Getting the SA revisions ready so they can be finalized before the refinancing next week, that way it is in writing he will get the money and will get his stuff out and get a place for him and the kids.
A small punch in the gut last night. I was in a cleaning frenzy (guy will come to appraise my home) and found an old copy of a check made out to stbx in the amount of 2.8k. I never knew of such money. It was a settlement for an injury he got at work, he didnt' tell me his work paid him anything! I was sooooo mad. He got the check a month before I gave birth (3-06). We really needed the money as they were not going to pay me 100% mat. leave. I outfitted the baby's room with yard sale and used stuff, bough a few simple things for the baby, not much. I now remember at the time he worked overtime and told me with that money he was buying a bike, I should've know better that his ot wouldnt' be enough for a bike. Then he proceeded to outfit himself head to toe with Harley Davidson leather gear, 2 of every thing, I never questioned him, EVER, about any of his purchases, even as I bought my maternity clothes from ebay. That's where all the $ went, the whole thing was spent on him. (insert scream).
Guess he didnt' turn into a pie-hole overnight. It hurt, because I shared all the bonus and any extra $ I got, because I trusted him blindly with our $ and if he wanted something I never said no, all his hobbies costed $ and I never denied him anything.
I was one sec. from calling him last night. Then I remembered... he does not know the house is being appraised for the refinancing. I've fixed tons around the house, have cleaned the carpets & porch, the landscaping outside looks great, i will get a much larger appraisal this time...and I will NOT tell him what the real value is. I am absolutely sure they will appraise the house for at least 20k more than the amount we agreed on. I have spent my money fixing the bathrooms, scrubbed mold our of floors and washed everything.
It is now my turn to keep quiet.
Vengeance is Mine, I will repay says the Lord. -Deut 32:35
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Good for you. Don't show him your cards it can only work to you advantage. Besides, you're the one who has done all of the hard work in getting ready for this appraisal. You should be entitled to any extra money.
As far as the check goes, that's just slimey and remember that when you need to be strong!
fig: oh! lol, thats funny you made them write about it. It is a cute movie
And, being that it is after all, 5 de Mayo, TEQUILAS all around!!!
Beth: tx luv, I wont' say a thing, i was thinking of when, if ever, tell him that the house was worth more. I'll have to make sure he can't do anything though, lol, he'd be so po'd.
Last edited by cat03; 05/05/0808:01 PM.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
As usual gremlins try to put ideas in my head. I got, all of a sudden, fixated with the idea to get my 2 chairs back (I loved the chairs from a patio set I bought last yr and now I see 2 chairs are missing from the porch, I am 98% stbx took them, most likely to ow's.) I even had a plan to go to her condo and peek at her balcony, then tell stbx I knew they were there and to get them or I'd tell her to give them to me. Boy I was mad --the crazy kind
I calmed down and realized how looney he'd think I am, he is great at denying and lying about stuff and prob would just say "see?? now you are thinking of more way to make this hard". So, I'll prob never bring it up,and honestly I don't want to be anywhere near ow's.
I'll have to disinfect the dog though, lol, he is taking him to ow's to get his hair clipped there, she isn't a groomer (has a dog) but I know it's her for stbx said "I'm taking him to someone who will try to give him a haircut, she isnt', I mean, he isnt' a professional so we'll see" *roll of eyes* , whatever, I didn't say anything, he's the same liar as always.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Yup dot all the i's and cross all of the t's and then let 'er rip! Yes, judging from everything you've said he probably will be pi$$ed but too bad so sad!
He did this and at the expense of both you AND his child. He has not been fair in his treatment of you. Don't lose any sleep over this.
