Hi everyone - I've been posting in the midlife crisis board but now I think I belong here. I'm 39 and have a 4 year old S and now we've just started the D. I still love my H so much so this D is very hard for me and I guess I'm scared and lonely and just feel so lost so I was hoping that maybe someone here might have some advice for me. Anyway this coming Monday I have another appointment with my L only this time my H and his L are joining us for the first time so my question is does anyone know what might happen at this appointment? I mean I just don't know what to expect and I'm so nervous about all of us meeting because every time I meet with my L I start to cry and I dont want that to happen so I wanted to be prepared. Also like I said I'm so scared to be D with a small s and I would love to hear ANY advice from anyone.
I had about 2 visits with my lawyer and I did my net worth but lawyer asked me to redo it so I thought I would be meeting with my lawyer at least once more before we all met together. I don't feel ready for this meeting at all and I have no idea what to expect at meeting but I'm just praying that I don't cry at meeting. I'm not sure why we are all meeting together but my H said that my Lawyer asked for the meeting. My L is said to be very good so I guess she knows what she is doing but I have no idea what's going on.
I think you need to share this with your lawyer. When me and my H were in D, we didn't need to do this. And if we had I know my lawyer would have done all the talking and taken control of everything. I'm pretty sure he would never put me in a position that would have weakened my stance in the divorce. I'm surprised yours would consider doing something that could potentially put you in a weak spot. Does she feel this will be helpful? Does she know you don't feel up to this? Make sure you know exactly what she is trying to accomplish in this meeting....
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I'm not sure why your L wants both of you to meet either. I met with my L alone, the only time we were all in one spot was when we had mediation & my L & I were in one room, H & his L were in another room. It's not fun! I was like you the first few times I met with my L all I could do was cry! I didn't want my D either but it went through April 8th. I'm still having such a hard time. I've been posting on the Newcomers thread but I guess I need to post here now. My H is going thru MLC too, has moved to another state with OW, quit his excellent job & didn't know her very well. Met her on a scuba diving trip June 2007 & from there they emailed, texted & talk on the phone. I had to do lots of snooping to find out about her. I'm still very heartbroken & hope that one day he will realize what he has done.
I agree with runningoutoftime, you need to find out exactly what your L is trying to accomplish with this meeting. Be strong!
