I feel it is time for me to move along. Once again, I would like to thank my DBing family for all of their help.
Given the woman I thought I was married to, I never thought I would be here..... Well, that woman turned out to be someone totally different.....
I thank God many times a day for my new wife... She has a heart of gold... She has brought so much to my life since last July.... Her wisdom and insight astound me..... Her life has shown me what a true woman of character is.... She is truly a Proverbs 31 woman.....
I will leave you with a writing from one of my favorites, Paul....
Quote:
Philippians 3
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
I pray each of you always strives to do what is good and right in God's sight.
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG; 04/28/0806:06 PM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Best wishes to you RMG! I hope things continue to go well for you and you are able to put the past in the past and create a great future as you intend.
All best to you. I'm not familiar with your sitch. But I see that you moved into a new M VERY quickly. I remarried 3 years after the bomb.
We are very happy, we did a lot of healing before our M, we worked out a lot of old issues before the M. My life with H is amazing and I realize over and over again how empty my XM was. Yet we are still both very aware that old issues don't go away. They have to be worked out with your new partner.
You and W will have a lot to work on together — you were perhaps both still reeling when you got M by whatever got you to that point. But work on it together you can. It is much better if you can expect it and acknowledge it.
Congratulations on your happiness. Keep it going by staying open and compassionate and detached. If you understand why that is the key to intimacy, then you are on your way. If you don't, then it is something to explore, perhaps, if you start to have problems.
BTW, MA StateFlower's post seems well-timed for you.
It is very interesting the paths my new wife and I both took. She had a relationship where she was friends with a guy for ten years, dated for another five and he bailed a few days before the wedding.... I knew my exW for three years and we were married for twelve..... She just bailed as well....
In the end, we learned a lot about relationships, love and trust...... We are so much better off now......... We get to use that knowledge in our M....... We know it will be hard work.... We know life will NOT be perfect..... We realize our happiness comes from God....... NOT OUR SPOUSE...... We realize you need to walk through the valleys to get to the mountaintop..... We both "get it....."
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Best wishes to you RMG! I hope things continue to go well for you and you are able to put the past in the past and create a great future as you intend.
Barb
Barb,
I appreciate your wishes...... I learned many important things during this journey.... The most important thing I believe I have learned is we MUST live each day with the love and joy God would want for his children..... We CANNOT entertain Satan's temptation to think about the past and worry about the future.... Those are BOTH in God's loving hands....
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Congrats and good luck! So glad you were able to find happiness and love again!
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
