This comment jumped out at me! I have had BF's that wanted me to do something b/c I could. Some of them could not understand that there were time when even though I could do something myself, it is nice having someone else do little things for you.
MSF can probably buff out the marks herself. But it is nice having someone do little things for you - especially when you are upset that your baby has been hit by a piece of wood. Of course I cannot speak on behalf of Rob - but from his posts, I know that he is a sweetheart that probably did this for MSF b/c he loves her and knew that it would mean a lot to her.
MSF can probably buff out the marks herself. But it is nice having someone do little things for you - especially when you are upset that your baby has been hit by a piece of wood.
The nice little things that you speak of are a neck, shoulder and back rub. Not exactly sure but that original comment smacked of dependency to me and that old and expected demarcation of responsibilities in relationships that are well past their peak.
Not saying this is the case with MSF & Rob but that's how it made me feel. Like what MSF is getting at here, these long term wrecks take longer than usual to fully get over I guess.
Suit,
"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
Not exactly sure but that original comment smacked of dependency to me and that old and expected demarcation of responsibilities in relationships that are well past their peak.
Interesting perspective... We will have to agree to disagree.
I spend all day at work "being a man" in order to avoid being accused of "behaving just like a woman." One my own personal requirements in an R with a potential P is to have the freedom to be a woman when I come home from work and my behavior may cross over into the realm of old and expected responsibilities in an R. I am okay with that as long a engaging in that conduct is my choice - and is not imposed on me.
As for neck, shoulder, back rubs - chances are we will both go to a professional massage therapist. If the potential P is as driven as I am - well chances are he will need a neck, back, massage too.
Hey everyone... Anyway, things are good here in sunny California. Rob is a sweetheart, family is well and career is going great. I got my kids, my grandbaby and my three cats who I love. Just wish my heart didn't still feel like swiss cheese!
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Ahhh, Gigi, I think we'll always have that Swiss cheese feeling, no matter how long it is. I know I feel the same way about it, but like I've told my ex many times...I'll get past what he's done but I'll never get over it. And that's how I feel to this day. There's a big difference. They have no idea (or don't want to admit) what they've done to us, the damage to us and our kids. They're just cowards who try to make themselves and us believe all is ok. It's not.
But look at what you've accomplished in your life. You have a wonderful guy (we all love Rob!). I think it's only natural for your kids to want to have contact with their baby brother. Just imagine if this had happened back in the beginning, and how hard it would have been for you. I think you are so blessed to have such loving children that they can accept this child into their lives. The baby is innocent in all this. So you are ultimately blessed by your children.
Thanks for stopping by - actually I'm extremely independent now. Probably too much! Cars however is what Rob does for a living so I wouldn't think of getting in the way. Taking care of my cars is one of the ways Rob show's how much he cares. It's just what he does.
Gigi
"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar
nice to see you all lookin better than ever! So much changes ...and yet stays the same.
I keep thinking I will get out some emails but there is still so much keeping me busy ! Think of you all often and pray for you and yours. Faith, Hope, Love, LSL
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