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I am not sure you understood what I wrote to you, as your response doesn't make any sense.
I have noticed this before....
Maybe this is an indication of a character flaw....
You don't listen well.
Listening is also a skill we need to learn.
We learn it well while we are being still.


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I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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BND,

I understood everything you said i am just fast forwarding a bit. I am having trouble being still. i must learn this but i think it will take time.

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If you do not learn how to be still, you wil fu*k up everything.

This is the nicest way I can tell you that you will become your own worst enemy.


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Define being Still.

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To me, being still means just that....

Stop trying to rush things or push things along.

Learn how to live one day at a time and stop allowing the anxiety of this situation to rule your life.

For me, it meant getting right with God, and allowing Him to make those choices for me.

Stop allowing fear to dictate your every move.

BT, the worst has already happened.

You did not die.

The rest of this journey is learning how to do things for yourself, by yourself, to make yourself happy.

IF Divorce is NOT what you want, then stop making things move in that direction.

Ask the Lawyer to stall things.

You will become like a dog chasing his own tail if you do not stop spinning.


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That's what I thought. Thanks for your thoughts.

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Things are really going down hill fast here, we made the mistake of going to the same party tonight. I had to leave after seeing her have to many beers and flirting around with all the guys. Can't wait to see the condition she comes home in. I am glad i asked her not to drive.

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Well she came home very quitely. This morni ng was a mess. She wanted to ride with us to son's soccer game and I didn't want her to. She was hung over and looking for a fight. Things went down hill from there. My son played a great game but she didnt see any of it for she was on the phone the whole time. Whata shame for my son.

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It's a damn shame for everyone.

But BT, what I don't get about you is that you is that you don't ever seem to do anything wrong.

It is always your wife's fault, always has been, always will be.

You never did anything throughout the Marriage that upset her, or offended her.

You were the perfect Husband.

The perfect Father.

You had no faults.

It is a shame she didn't appreciate you and all of the wonderful things you have done to make her so happy.

It is too bad you stuck around with such a miserable Woman for the past 20 years.

How ever did you survive?


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I guess you missed a lot of my posts BND.

Can you read? Do you speak english.

Do you listen. Big fault of YOURS!

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