My W never responded to the papers, but I am not pressing for a default judgement. It is best to keep things amicable if it does go all the way to a D.
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And how in the world could I ever trust him to not cheat on me again and keep it a secret for 5 months then leave again?
Cross that bridge when and if it comes, but dont worry about it too much now. I have the same question about future trust, but I am not dealing with it until I see that W wants to come back first. One step at a time. Another step would be her regaining acceptance with my family and friends, but once again, I am not worrying about it now.
I hear you on getting the lunches and kids out the door in the morning. Every day is a coaching session trying to get my boy to move along. He is a reader and moves at a glacial pace.
BTW... What is the origin and meaning of "My Monkey Bug"?
So the suggestion is to cross the bridges as they come. Well why then am I expected to stand still on the bridge of reconcilliation when H shows he doesn't want that? Shouldn't I just turn around and walk back off the bridge and find another one to walk across?
My Monkey Bug...Monkey is son's nickname and Bug is daughter's nickname. Even my email is
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I had at one time wanted vanity plates for my van that said 'monkbug' but never got around to it.
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Both 35 T 19/M 15 years S8/D5 It's over bomb/ILYBNILWY 12-22-07
No one has said that you must stay on the bridge of reconciliation. That is obviously a very personal decision. What is being said is that before you wander off to a new bridge that you finish up the life you are presently living. Entering a new relationship while still married is not the best way to begin a new journey.
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
