Finally - HOUSE IS SOLD?

[Teddy]

After a year of living in our "marital home" by myself with the dog, it looks like we have a solid offer. So why am I not happy about it? This feels like the absolute end of this year long affair. Time to move on. I feel relieved, but at the same time anxious and sad.

Anybody want to relate to how they dealt with finally moving out of the physical remnants of their marriage? How they dealt with the last attachment of a marriage? Because right now I am struggling just a bit.

[hope2]

Teddy,

Sorry to hear about the house. I am just starting to be in your situation. I am in our marrital home just with the dog and there is a strong push from my H to sell the house because he needs the money for his new home he purchased with OW. I sort of feel sad about it and will try and delay it but what has to happen will happen and that for a good reason.

But that "solid" offer can turn sour. We sold once a farm and it turned out that the guy had to rent it from us for another year because he could not sell his house and give us the money because he had a lean on his house. So nothing is solid even when you move out until you get the cheque in your hands.

Hope everything turns out how it should and you get something much better out of it. Just keep expecting something brand new out of the existing turmoil.

[Teddy]

Hope,

Put you on my watched list. So if you have any questions feel free to contact me EDITED--EMAIL NOT ALLOWED It has been a long year. Hope this offer stands. I had the house sold back in September, all the negotiations were finished, and the couple backed out on the last possible day. That was so frustrating. So, I am keeping my fingers crossed, and the Saint Joseph statue remains buried until this thing is final.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. This is a grat forum to vent. Use it to your advantage.

[hope2]

Actually I thought to write that the house is sold when you cash the cheque. Hope it is soon so that you can start afresh. Are you going to buy another property or go in an apartment? How long is your closing date? And are you packed?

If you are meant to stay or move, you can't predict. So whatever is going to happen will happen. Just hope for the best.

[Teddy]

I really don't want to go to an apartment. I am really having a hard time with that concept. But probably can't really afford to buy a house in the community that I live by myself (I am a teacher). Don't know if I even really want to jump into this market anyway. Probably will rent for at least 6 months. Might be difficult with the dog, but we will make it work. Close on 5/15, have to be out on 5/17. Not packed yet. Have to be really careful because the deal looks a little screwy. Just keeping my fingers crossed.

Sometimes you don't know how much stress is on you until it is off. I guess you can compare it to the frog/slow boil analogy. I feel such relief today.