Keep taking care of yourself Frank, by the way, I spoke with CM/Tiara Boy the other day and him and I talked about that article you sent us. Do you remember it?
Ian
Probably the Alpha Male stuff, right? I have all those things and I know that I'm on may way back to that place of power again.
Hesitating to post but since I've been there done that....
Frank, did your W see the doctor yet? any news? As Sara posted there a many options for a woman with heavy bleeding from various reasons, but speaking for myself it can truly be a monthly event that is life altering during that heavy bleeding. Not something that is easy to deal with or to look forward too every month, or 6 weeks, or 2 weeks, or whenever. After years of working thru appts and fybroids and endometriosis etc... the Big H seems to be the answer that I should have done much sooner. I hope the best for your W.
This goes back to the last thread too. You asked W for grocery money and then when she offered to pay you back you said she didn't need too. How is that consistant?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Frank, did your W see the doctor yet? any news? As Sara posted there a many options for a woman with heavy bleeding from various reasons, but speaking for myself it can truly be a monthly event that is life altering during that heavy bleeding.
It's all fine now. She had tests but hasn't heard the results yet. But she's ok now physically.
Emotionally? Well she's being 'nice' every time we interact. No idea why. I am keeping my distance as best I can. Being nice but not sticking around to get 'too close'. Detaching.
I just don't want to 'play' any more. I have a lot on my plate trying to save us financially and it's a losing battle at times. She abandoned me, no 'kicked' me when I was down. More than once. I just don't want to put any more energy / hope / love into her. It's a one way street and I need it for myself, and my girls.
I'm starting to feel like I'd rather be alone than with her. Sad, but true. When is someone going to be afraid they might lose ME?
I'm worth it. For all she can complain about, I've done way more 'good' than perceived 'bad'. Way more.
Please forgive the hijack. Just wanted to say hello to AmyC and my good stubborn friend FrankD.
I don't know much about your sit. to be honest I just did a search to find amy and frank and found this thread.
Whoever you are and whatever you're going through, amy and frank are good people.
Just keep in mind. (take it with a grain of salt since I admit I have not read one word of your sit.) This board is a wonderful resource and a wealth of wisdom, but use it as an ace bandage and not a crutch.
Gosh, I have not posted to you in months. I am very sorry sorry to find you here, though. Geez - what is happening to the people I thought for sure were going to be okay?
Anyway, I'm glad you're keeping on track. I, too, have come to realize that whenever stbx is nice to me, it's because he wants something. Sucks to think that someone who once loved you (or not, according to my ex) can treat you that way, but that's wha extreme self-centeredness does.
Know that I think of you and wish you all the very best.
Nicola
Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself My thread: Trusting God's Plan
I was in my office and I heard some sounds coming from the downstairs bedroom which shares a wall. It seemed odd so I went in to the house and W was curled up on the bed sobbing loudly.
I went to her and touched her back and she pulled away. Asked her if there was anything I could do and she said she was 'ok'. I noticed on her left hand she had a bunch of rings, some I had given her, including her engagement ring and wedding ring.
A minute later she said "I just want to be able to do things myself".
I told her she can do things herself, she has been for a long time. Then she says "Yeah, I'm really good at breaking our family apart and causing everyone pain. I'm so sorry I couldn't make it work."
So, I said "W, nobody could make it work. I was sick and you didn't know what to do. I'm taking care of myself and I've got my faith back. And I'm never going to let myself get sick again. I care about you and I have faith that things will work out for the best."
She says "Oh yeah, everyone is just going to live happily ever after thanks to me."
I said "Anything is possible, you can change this if you have faith".
I left her alone and went back to type this post. She's having a bad day for sure.
