Financial questions, and a few others...

[dbs]

If you have read my other post, then you're aware that I am 7 months into the D process.

Our youngest d is getting married in June and I have told her I would do my best to keep things as civil until after her wedding, (as I have done all along) and let my attorney know the same. In fact I told my attorney that if we can just do nothing until then it would be fine with me.

My wifes attorney has let us know that he is still going through the financial and job records they received 6 weeks ago and is not ready to depose me yet, but we could schedule one for my wife whenever. I have wanted to wait and do both of us at the same time with the idea I would go first, and depending on how adversarial they were, we would match it, but as mentioned, I see no need until after the upcoming wedding.

I received a bill from my attorney telling me my $7500 is gone and he needs more, and we have not even gotten started yet. Apparantly over $5000 was spent on just the documents I had to furnish my wifes attorney in her quest to prove I have been hiding $, which is absolutely false.

Because I cannot fund anything more right now to the a-ttorney retirement fund, and still take care of upcoming taxes and help with this wedding, I'll pose a few ? here, knowing I will need to verify with the attorney.

First-Should I expect my wife who started this whole nonsense to pay 50% of the wedding cost? Second-She has requested that I as the trustee of our (he/she) retirement funds be allowed to remove $2000. The natural nice side of me wants to help wherever I can, and the realistic side of me that I wish kicked in the day she left says-he11 no!!!!!!! I can only assume it will be used to continue to sue me for even more $.

Should I use this as an opportunity to negoiate with her to remove the po (she has said she would modify it so that we can plan and attend this wedding together) or should it just be-sorry I don't see that happening? Ideas??

[Wide_awake]

Hey there,

I don't have any really strong answers, but what strikes me is that she didn't tell you why she wants the $2000.

Be fair, rise above the pettyness and expect the same in return. This is an awful thing you are going thru, but you have to stand up for you-no one else is and she isn't going to cut you any slack.

[Just_Me]

I'm sure she wants it to pay her lawyer. Maybe you should both take out 2,000 since you need money for your lawyer also.

Obviously she should be paying for 1/2 of the wedding.

[cat03]

ditto above, you should also be able to take some $$ (stocks are going down anyways :P )

Wow, just curious, how come 7k o fyour $ evaporated? is she fighting you for everything you are worth?

[dbs]

Somehow, somewhere, (probably with help from her Bro) she got the idea I was hiding $ from her, and with that her attorney seems to have convinced her that there is $ to be had. Hence all the copies of job and financial files.

I think part of this is the quest of her young attorney to get her a good $ settlement against my very expereinced attorney. She will listen to no one, including her own kids on any of this.

[Dom R]

I think part of this is the quest of her young attorney to get her a good $ settlement against my very expereinced attorney.

Pfft. it could be simpler than that. It could be simply, "her young attourney making billable hours for himself", by having more things to do, like spending time going over financial records.

It is said, that one attorney in a town will starve to death, but two in a town, will make a good living for themselves.