SomeWhere over the rainbow 2

[Sara]

Now I know why you like that doctor. She has you strip every time? How often do you go?

[cw68]

husband, I have problems off and on with sciatica. From what I understand about it, bed rest is not good at all even though I think it sounds like it should be.

I recommend going to a chiropractor. My insurance even covers it with just a $15 copay and I think I know why: it takes care of the problem! You do have to find a good chiropractor though, one that doesn't automatically want you to sign up for three months of weekly visits, one that really wants to get rid of your pain and NOT see you all the time. My chiropractor is health nut, a personal trainer and a Mormon so he's all about the body being able to heal itself if you pay attention to it, treat it right and the like. I go just once a month and haven't had any problems since August of last year when it kept feeling like someone was pouring hot water down the back of my hamstring. Weirdest feeling ever.

My sister has gone the traditional doctor route and hasn't found much relief at all. Just drugs for the pain when it happens.

Stretching helps me a ton. When you can do this without passing out, this helps decompress the area: get on your hands and knees. While arching your back tuck your chin down into your chest, lengthening your spin. Then do the reverse and pull your chin towards the sky while doing a reverse arch.

Also, take care in the future to strengthen your back muscles and make sure you have good posture. My chiropractor kept telling me how important it was to get 20 minutes of exercise three times a week, even walking, not overly stressful. I said, yeah yeah yeah. But it does make a huge difference.

Bottom line, once you know you have back problems, work to prevent them because treating them is a b*tch.

[JAK58]

H,

Hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Please be carefull with the pain killers.

Is W looking into job at your work?
I wish her the best.

JAK

[Dr LOve]

Well I made it through the night. I think I slept better.
Jak58, we could not find the job post. W is going to call my company today. W seems to be in a better place now that things seem to be moving along.
As for me... Well I am sitting right now. That’s more that I could do yesterday. I am hoping to get back to work tomorrow. As soon as w lands some kind of job I am going to start up my Rebuilding of our marriage again. I MAY have come to to the point that I can deal with it without emotion. I mead that I don't feel as desperate right now.
I need to go back and find what Sara wrote about Retro. I think it was to MMC. I wish the web site did not look so religious. I think that may scare allot of people away.


Thinking about all of ya

DrLove

[cw68]

I'm with you on the religious part of Retro. This is definitely something my H was uncomfortable with, I could tell, though he was trying not to be. About a month or so ago I mentioned Retro to him and told him I thought it was a good idea, that I just wanted to put it out there but not for right now. He said, "OK, we know there's the catholic option." I countered, "I like to think of it as the affordable option."

[Sara]

CW, you are exactly right. You can pay thousands for a similar program that doesn't mention belief in a higher being, or you can pay a few hundred for Retrouvaille. People will find fault with everything. And you can never satisfy everyone. I am sure there are many people there who want a stronger religious program, and some who want none at all. They try to be balanced. The priest is there to speak privately to those who want it, and they don't wake people who are dozing.

[fightingirish]

h,

Glad you are feeling better.. i had siatica and boy that does hurt. After going to disney though and doing a bunch of walking it seems to have gone away.... so Im thinking exercise is my cure..so maybe that may help you. just my .02

gl with the job stuff.. crossing my fingers.

[Contyankee]

Hi Sara,

Its CY, remember me? Nothing new to report. I am not sure what wife is waiting for if she files for Divorce or not. We have two more payments and our house is paid for. No more mortgage payment. She is working more steadily. She is a full time substitue teacher as she took over for someone back in November whose husband passed away and she has not returned to work.

Maybe she is waiting to be an official full time teacher. She did say that almost 2 years ago. It will be 2 years this coming June. She did say that she was waiting to get a full time job before she files for Divorce. Now she is painting the dining room during Spring Break.

I'm not much help, especially with heavy lifting. I have seen an orthopedist and I have a few things wrong with me. I have a torn rotator cuff and bone spurs in my left shoulder, tendinitis in my right elbow, and nerver damage in the back of my right hand for which I am wearing a brace. I'm right-handed so this is a problem but the brace does help. Instinctivly, I will go to grab something with my right hand without a brace and then it would feel like someone sticking me with needles. Then it goes numb.

Her family was over on Easter and everyone was cordial so that was a success. I wish there was something I could do to repair this marriage but I can't do it alone and she is unwilling to forgive. So she remains in hate. Sometimes, I wish she would just get this over with and file for "D" but other times I don't.

THe other problem I have is my short-term memory. I'm doing things that don't make sense. I've misplaced my glasses countless times and find them. Last week, I made a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and ate it in the family room. When I go to put the jelly away, I could not find the lid. I searched the kitchen garbage can but no luck so I wrapped it in aluminin foil. A day or two later, my wife told me she found the lid in the kitchen drawer. I made light of it and said, that is where I put it? I couldn't find it. But as I walked into the other room, I have no recollection of putting the lid there and why would I do something so stupid. There are other instances that have happened to me and its alarming me. I'm only 52 yrs old, but I think I am either coming down with Dementia or an early case of Alzheimers. This is no joke.

Last Saturday, she gives me the Shop-Rite Gift Card that we buy at church (5% proceeds go to the poor) to pick up a few things, especially white vinegar to color Easter Eggs. Within a minute I asked her if she gave me the Card and she said I just handed it to you. I found it in my back pocket of my jeans. Then I purposely looked at it and put it in my front shirt pocket. When I go to pay for it, the card is gone. And I know I looked at the card into my shirt pocket. This is scaring me.

I feel like the character Ingrid Bergman played in the movie "Gaslight" where her husband was driving her into insanity.

Please pray for me.
CY

[Dr LOve]

Contyankee,

Hey guy,

Do you think you could just be pre ocupied? I mean I don't know about you but my mind wonders too. I start thinking about my sitch and then I forget what I was going into the garage for...

Sara,

W seems to be in a good mood today, I feel way beter than yesterday and was cleaning up in my/our room and W was going shopping. She came in to change her pants and grabed them and went into the bathroom. Ok in kicks the taking it personal gear. I think to myself why does she not like me so much that she can't change her pantts infornt of me? then I hear her "going to the bathroom" Ok stupid... she had a reason to go in there and close the door..... I am getting better at not taking things so personal. I do feel that soon things will change in my sitch. keeping my fingers crossed with her job search...Before she left she said"you are not going to try to move anything are you? I told her no I will wait for her or son to help.....

Dr Love

[cw68]

Dr Love, what are you doing (or planning on doing) to help your back heal? Sounds like you like to take on projects so you should have a little plan in action for some healing before you jump back into the fray.