i won't go through it again. i'm done. i will not sit on a back burner while she sees if things are going to work with another dude. i am worth more than that
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Richie, I agree that you are worth more than that. However, no knee jerk reactions here bud. Reality is if you and her were going to be married then your communication together should be much better than this don't you think?
You don't know what was in the email, you dont know what she is feeling or going through, yet you sent her a dear John straight away without giving her the benefit of the doubt. No trust there I guess, understandable, yet not healthy with someone you are getting ready to marry.
Back to your basics I guess, time with the boys, getting your brain healthy, etc.........
i went back and read it last ngiht. the email he sent was all about how beautiful she is, and how great she is, and how he has never felt this connection, and the spark and blah blah blah
her reply was that she wanted to show him that she saved it even after she said they had to disengage and that he means so much to her.
i think she mistakenly replyed to her gmal cuz he orriginaly sent it to gmail and she sent it to her isp, she replyed from her isp and it went to gmail
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Richie, I see how that would send a message that would put you in this state. Just make sure you handle things the way you want to in regards to you having no regrets. The I love you enough to let you go approach rather than the get the frick away because you hurt me approach. Understand?
blyndfaith, I don't blame you a bit and I don't think you are reacting in haste. This is a woman you are engaged to. Promised to, and her to you. You're supposed to be preparing for a life together. No other man should "mean so much to her" that she would save an email like that or reply to the man that sent it. She may be confused. She certainly isn't ready to be walking down an aisle toward you. Perhaps you don't entirely break up over this, but I'd certainly rethink the wedding, even if she contacts you and asks for a second chance. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
no if the chance ever comes to work things out, it will be sloooooowwwww, but i don't think it is going to happen, we live 30 miles away and after i pick up my stuff tonight, we will have no reason for contact. she didn't respond to either my email last night, or my text today that i was planning on getting my stuff. so i am thinking she is done.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
I guess I may have flown off the handle a little bit. But I was angry. You should have seen my boys this morning. Yes, I do love her, but I can't be put on a back burner. My biggest problem is that since I have told her that I saw her message, I have heard nothing. No I'm sorry, no explination. If you love me and need space to unravvel any uncertainty that you may have then okay that still sounds like she is the woman I have been with, it's a responsible respectful thing to do. But to tell me that and mean that you need space away from me while you are seeing how things are going to work out with this classless douchebag that means so much to you, well that's different. She is on the same level with our ex's then. I have ben lied to enough, and I don't allow that. If she works things out in the future, and sees what she is doing to herself, and those around her then fine, I love her enough let her go and yeah, hopefully in the future maybe look at things again. But as of now, she has given me no reason to see things other than how SHE has shown me.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
