Some of you know me and my sitch already. All I can say now is the confusion continues. My H has spent so much time at the house the last two weeks but I have no idea what it means. My T says I need to tell him that I am happy he is here so much, but I am also confused by it. Hopefully I will be able to talk to him at some point today and find out.
I will be going to my parents' w/ my Ds for Easter. I think some time apart for a couple of days will be good for us. I think H and I need a little time alone to think.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Yes, talk to him and tell him exactly what your T says (if you feel this way of course). But don't expect to find out much. It would surprise me if you did. It seems that he is working his way in quietly so that he doesn't have to make any committments like "I am here to stay, ILY SOOOOO much, etc" . In some cases there is a delay between doing and saying, maybe he is one of those...
I would definitely agree that telling him his presence is good but confuses you might be the right thing to do. Is there some reason he is spending so much time at the house, or is he just finding an excuse to be there? How is he acting when he is there?
I would definitely agree that telling him his presence is good but confuses you might be the right thing to do. Is there some reason he is spending so much time at the house, or is he just finding an excuse to be there? How is he acting when he is there?
Well, Edge, I'm not sure why he is at the house so much. A couple of weeks ago he told me he needed a place of his own. (He had been staying w/ a friend, but that is no longer possible.) Then several days later he started sleeping here on the couch. The first night it was because of weather. I don't know why he has every night since then. That is what I'm hoping to find out. I don't know if he hasn't gotten his own place because he doesn't want to or because he doesn't want to put the effort into. Money isn't an issue so that can't be the reason. Maybe our couch is just really comfy.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
have you been doing any "tricks" lately that he likes? (checkout Jeff's thread what I mean by that)
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I will have to check out that thread and get back to you.
H did some things to further confuse me today. 1. H called in the middle of the day to talk to me for no reason what so ever. Something he used to do years ago and hasn't done much at all the last year. 2. We had met at church for services but he had to go back to work on a report. I asked if he would be home for dinner and he said probably not. I made a couple of stops w/ the kids on the way home and called to let him know our plans for dinner, just in case. Went straight to vm so I left a msg. H called later pretty much for no reason because he didn't mention my msg. or dinner. 3. When I got home I sent H a text to let him know about changes in our dinner plans. H sent back a why and I sent back a text to explain. Then I got a text back from H that was actually flirtaous in nature. I was shocked beyond belief.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
WHY can't he see he has no place to go? WHY can't he see he still wants to be with you and his family? WHY do they have to make it so f*&%&ng difficult for themselves and us... Just wondering
