Yes I beleive I did let him know and how the children may have been effected by it. Didn't seem to matter much then and still doesn't now. When someone (the was, mlcer etc.) makes a decision it is usually all about them and their perspective...hard for them to understand how what they are doing or more importantly the way they are doing it effects other.
Moving to piecing doesn't miraculously change them overnight.
you can't say much to them cos they don't (won't) want to listen. If they do listen all they can hear is you whining on at them, which makes you sound needy, clingy and all the things they dislike about you. Listening and understanding your feelings mean they have to admit they were wrong. Admitting you're wrong is never easy.
THank you for your replies. It is very interesting . i am not in piecing though.I just wanted to know. H and I are and have been separated for about 2 and a half years.I have kept my mouth closed about my feelings towards his behavior but lately I have been wide open.
Of course..... and the more you point it out the more they will deny and refute you (blaming you for it). The funny thing I found. Is when I supported my husband's MLC and told him to go for it, you only live once and you should be happy... and the kids are fine... yada yada B.S., and then started acting somewhat similarly.... that's when my husband started actually looking at what he was doing.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
