What is going well: I am exercising 3x/wk My H is loving me as best as he can figure. I am very thankful for that. I am investigating returning to school. We are learning how to communicate, express needs, give to each other. This last storm has passed more easily than others. (Got off the roller coaster quicker.) I'm feeling affirmed but also challenged to do better. This is a biggy: My H said he WANTS to come up for part of the time while I'm visiting my daughter and her family. I might not have to get all the way back on meds. An interesting project is coming along at my volunteer job. I had a great time today working with a very shy teen to prepare for his GED and found a better way for him to study. Another one of my GED kids got accepted to college. I'm being more assertive with an associate. Gonna keep adding to this list and moving forward with PMS, no that's not right PMA!!!!!
We have been busy this week end having OR talks and today we went for a walk (that always helps me calm down) and had a really good talk. Part of it was about my anger. I do feel angry from time to time (it's getting rarer) and have found it important to express it. I try to process it first and make sure I express plenty of appreciation for all the great thigs my H is doing but if I don't stand up for myself with him, I get depressed. We are getting more and more fair with each other and I'm starting to believe that I am loved.
Also, it appears that we bought a house! We've been renting in two different places for 3 years. We decided today to put in what we thought was a low offer on a house that needs a little work and they took it. We are mostly surprised.
Sometimes it seems like we go to extremes. On one side, we have so many issues that we end up dumping on our spouse. This causes them to shut down. So what do we do? We clam up. In other words, we shut down.
Once that happens, we hafta open up without reverting back to the dumping.
Ah, so that's where the title for your thread comes from. You are getting there too, Andy and I bet your wife is too. What do they say around here? oh yes, slowlee, slowlee...
I'm soon headed for 3 weeks with my daughter and her family. I get my granddaughter to myself for a week !!! My H gets to work all he wants.
We are seeing my psychiatrist today. I'm hoping to get off the meds before really starting them again.
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