Please help with this one.

Just when I think we are making some progress, H keeps repeating the same line is torn about what to do, knows if he lives me things will be really tough for me and the kids but also "Wants What He Wants", damn that man. Those words hurt like a sharp knife in my heart.

I'm suppose to go to San Diego to pick him up tomorrow since he quit his job to get one here at home, finally, but don't know how that is going to work out, it'll be tough, finacially for us, but hey I said I was tired of raising family on my own and him just being weekend father and living his double life, want him to see the reality of life, may not be peaches and creme but its what he's made of it and now by making all these stupid descisions lately has made things even worse for all of us.

Am I wrong to make him do this or should I just let him keep his double life and be able to walk away easier for him?


M 45
H 42

D 26
D 18
S 16

Married 19 years
Together 24 years
ILYBNILWY 1/7/08
OW 10/11/07
ended affair 3/14/08
came home 3/14/08
last contacted ow 3/17/08
4/19/08 trying to piece marriage back.