Don't worry, and don't be afraid. I know how you feel and what your going through. You will not be able to control what he does but what you do. This is a time for you to grow and heal...Debra, believe me, you are ok in this....I know the thoughts going through your mind is what hurts, I know the nights are so difficult and I know how horrible the weekends are. But you will get through this...do not want him back so soon....take this time to grow.....dont jump from the fire into the frying pan....trust in the love you have and what that means....sometimes in marriage the love is taken for granted and we forget the meaning of it....take this time to learn what the love truely means for you...your H will find this, right now he thinks it's in someone else....but he is mistaken...
************************ Did I also mention that she is a co-worker (postal service) is thin and pretty, while I am overweight (working on for myself finally) and 42 years old. How do I compete with that ************************
It's great that you are working on it. I hope it's for the right reason (not him). I don't think it is a competition. At least not you Vs her.
Reach down deep and find the strength you need. Lose weight if that is your choice. Try to find a fun way of doing it. Don't live your life in fear of losing him. It's not something you can control. All you can do is create a warm environment for him to come home to. After that, it's his choice, his problem.
thank you all so much. I am trying. sometimes he seems ok then others, so distant. It is hard, I feel like it is all about him, forget the fact that he cheated on me. It makes me angry and hurt. Somethings he does make it seem as if he wants to stay and others dont. I am trying not to read anything into anything he does right now. I am losing the weight for myself. It makes me feel better and in control of something in my life. Why do I have to love him so much? He cheated on me, he lies, he acts like he wants me to tell him to leave and go back to her, says he will get used to being in a sad mood all the time, he isnt such a prize is he?
