Well what I believed to be a MLC is now stretching into 5 years. Much to long to have MLC be the only cause in the situation. So I have given up. Thrown in the towel, waving the white flag and whatever other cliche' you can come up with.
All the while we have been friends and talked. Most of the time she would introduce me as her best friend. She lived here a couple of times, in a spare room, no sex, and this last time lived on her own in her own apartment being separated from her second husband. He is an abusive alcoholic who she keeps going back to even after being subjected to physical harm and terrible emotional abuse. For the third time she has packed up and left her family and gone back to him. Telling me she was just going back to the same area for a job and not him. Lied straight to my face while she had put her wedding band and diamond back on that he gave her. Duh ! I'm not really that stoooopid...... I guess that's a matter of opinion ;-)
Nothing but a bunch of lame excuses about going back. She said she gave us a try and didn't feel anything for me romantically anymore. Can't make somebody love you, now can you. Especially when they have a sick obsession with someone who abuses them.
So sorry folks. No happy ending here. Ya never know what God has in store for us but for now I'm done.
I'm sure there is years of counseling in her future if she is ever to return to person I once new. I doubt that will ever happen as she doesn't even admit to having any kind of problem.
Good luck to you all who are still hanging in there. I wish you the best of luck in your respective situations.. DavidA
