MLC Links

[Coyote]

Could those MLC links be put back on? Those are quite informative.

Coyote.

[Virtually_Handsome]

There is a link to them in the fourth post in the sticky thread, Midlife Crisis from Michele.

[AmyC]

Well Coyote, they say those links aren't "solution-oriented" and that they only help to get an LBS "stuck in the crisis" as opposed to taking care of themselves.

What the moderator(s) don't seem to grasp, or at least don't respect enough to recognize, is that there are people who will dig and dig with the need to understand before they CAN start moving towards their own healing.

But this is how they wanna roll around here now.
So we either conform or we get banned.

My meaningless opinion is that this ain't gonna fly on the MLC board because of the sheer nature of that beast. LBSs either have to understand it (as much as it can be understood), or you have to be standing with others saying "WTH?". There's a whole lotta hand wringing in the future of this board.

Providing you with solutions for the mess your spouse's MLC left you with is one thing and it's to be commended, but to ignore your human need to grasp at least the collar of the monster you're dealing with, is irresponsible and since they HAVE the information, written by those that have been in the trenches and OPTED to remove it, it is also cruel and self-serving.

Someone will hook you up.




AmyC

[AmyC]

There is a link to them in the fourth post in the sticky thread, Midlife Crisis from Michele.

See?

There's a hero right there.

[Jeanette1120]

I'm seriously wringing my hands right now

I'm tired of the trenches ...

my knees are dirty

my brain hurts!

I understand the WHY'S now.....those links were so helpful.

I'm soooooooo waiting to get ahold of his collar!!!!

I had to understand before i could move forward, as it has been said so many times before

YOU JUST DON"T MAKE THIS SHZNIT UP!

[enlightenbylife]

I too wish they would be put back up front and center. They were so helpful and needed before moving on could happen.

Could the moderators please put them so that they are more visable????

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[MissH]

I wish they would put them back up too.

I found them really useful when I was a newbie because it gave me understanding of what I was dealing with.

Even as an oldie, it would help to go back and refresh my memory so I could get back some compassion for the mule.

Sure they are available in another sticky thread, but they are not easy to find. That's why everyone keeps asking where they are!

[MissH]

Also, I believe Michelle does state in her book in the MLC section, to boost our chances of remaining patient, that we should read all we can about MLC. Also I believe she mentions that by educating ourselves about MLC, it helps to not take things so personal.

[sgctxok]

My goodness. Welcome BACK to divorcebusting. The links were just placed inside Michele's thread. While it is useful to get an UNDERSTANDING about some parts of MLC in other resources....YOU are the best person to make decisions about your own situation.

That said, it is so easy to get off track, depressed and pretty sure that there is nothing you can do but wait it out and get your own life!

While you very often have a very long haul, and there are no guarantees,But there's so much more you can do. The techniques ARE NOT JUST FOR YOURSELF...they are still useful for your marriage.

[newnamenewlife]

What is going on here? And what is a sticky thread? I'm completely confused.