WAW left mid '06 (married 10 yrs., 1st for us both at the time)
During S period, I did all the usual pursuing things w/ predictable results (C was useless, no meaningful attempt at R on her part--too much hurt & unforgiveness). I found this site too late, told her about it & she expressed initial interest but soon retreated (a RECURRING THEME throughout)
WAW enters into A w/ OM in late '06, files 1/07
D final 6/07
XW marries OM late '07 as soon as his D (his 3rd) is final-he is still in litigation with his 3rd XW...a total mess I hear Very little contact between me and XW for the past year (no kids)
Update: I kept our primary house and most contents therein. Our old photo albums have been in a spare garbage can in the garage since mid-'07 (yes, I held out hope for a miracle until then). I long ago discarded everything else except the albums since the decree stated she was entitled to a split of albums, but I have never heard of any request from her for these...have been wondering why since they seemed to be a big deal for her as a scrapbooker. I forgot about them for months but was afraid to toss them recently as i didn't want any nasty lawyer letters accusing me of violating the decree should she suddenly ask for them. [XW was upset when I threw away other stuff (dried flowers, etc.) and wrote requesting that I "just ask her before tossing anything else"].
Well, I am now in a promising new R and feet that sufficient time had passed to allow XW to express interest if she truly wanted these items (does anyone know if there a statute of limitations on this sort of stuff???)
Should I toss them or should I text XW and offer them to her? I would probably have to see her to effect a transfer which I am not sure I want to do at this point...
Well, I would text her and say that if she wants them to let you know. Give her a time frame in which she has to get them and let her know that if she doesn't get them within that time frame, you will be getting rid of them.
If you don't want to see her, is there perhaps a place you can leave them for her to pick up?
If you know her address, can you just send them to her? That is assuming you don't want them. That way, you get rid of them, and you don't have to bother with the communications if that is something you don't want.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius
