This is exactly how I feel! After 2 years, no positive changes.
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wait it out iot wont be much longer.
I hope you are right. They have been together 2 years and as far as I know, still going strong. I just see some many of these relationships last, it scares me.
Mrs. H, you forget he has the OW talking in the other ear. He may be feeling good about an interaction but OW can't have that she has to remind him of all the other "bad" things you did to him.
Happy, I was really looking forward to your answer to wantlove because I have the same situation with my H. Does your answer mean you would have to lash out at her? I am confused!
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
glad to see someone else in the same boat. It is tough reading about all of the interactions others have. They get told to go dark, NC, but when I have said that I do that ALL THE TIME, I am told that I shoukld "wait for him outside his job to talk to him" - actual advice. it is so frustrating! I hope we get Happy's answer, too.
WL I am sorry but i don't care.you are rude ans uncaring to others here when they have reached out to you time and time again and I will not get baited into a slinging match with you. it is not worth my time.
I see H and OW at every sporting event of our S18's. H works very hard not to look my direction so there is no accidental eye contact. Sad...if he does want to ask me something about finances, he sends me a very impersonal email. It sucks! 21 years of marriage and 22 years together and that is all I get.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Yikes, sorry if I have offended people here, but I am here for the same reason as everyone else - to get support in order to get through this horrible time. I am as good a person as anyone else here, no better, no worse. I KNOW I don't have the answers, and know that a marriage takes two, and that I'm not blameless, but, as many here can attest, it is hard for "civilians" to understand what we are dealing with. I want to continue to learn all I can, for H, for M, AND for me. Happy, I'm sorry if my request upset you. I really respect the fact that you are willing to participate in this kind of forum.
Are all these ow the jealous types? I am not sure if my H's is. I mean obviously my H has proven to this ow that he is done with me, so what does she need to fear?
Sorry for the temporary hijack, Mrs. H. I've been following your situation, and while I have no advice for you, I just wanted to let you know how strong you sound. Best of luck to you - hang in there.....
Wantlove, I am not sure if I ever posted to you but I did follow your threads.
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I am here for the same reason as everyone else - to get support in order to get through this horrible time.
Yes, but unlike everyone else, you don't seem to want to listen to any advice. You ask for it and then say "well I don't think this board is for me." Your sitch is not that much different than anyone else. We all hurt and there are so many people on here that can help you if you just listen.
Have you read any of the post on your last thread? A lot of people posted to you in support but you chose to disappear.
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I want to continue to learn all I can, for H, for M, AND for me.
Well then put on your listening ears for once! I don't mean to be harsh and come across as bashing, but what is it going to take you to wake up and actually listen to what other's are trying to tell you? It seems like when you hear something you don't want to hear, you leave. That's why Happy probably feels like "what's the point?" Are you really willing to listen to him? I mean really?
I do wish you all the best WL, but you really can find a lot of help here if you REALLY want it.
I have to beleive that just by virtue of the fact that we have children with them and have a long history with them added to the fact that they are "dating", "living with", or "sleeping with" a married man is enough to make the insecurities come out. I guess my thought is if they didn't have the insecurities they wouldn't have gotten involved with a married man.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
