An old friend called his local group whom his W hung out with The Society of Separated Women, or SSW for short. We concluded that this is an international society with branches everywhere. We also concluded that most chapters, even thou they had Women in their official name, welcomed all relationship dysfunctional people, regardless of gender, race, creed, or sexual orientation (which can make for some very interesting developments for addle-brained, alien abducted WAS's who aren't sure they should be married, or, well, never mind for now...).
Anyway, the SSW chapters are very non-denominational and ecumenical. In my W's chapter, most members were separated or divorced women, but the the OM was a member and a few others who were married then but are now divorced. The membership is constantly in flux and ever changing. It seems that one of their main focuses is to increase their membership by recruiting newly disillusioned married people. They offer much support and encouragement to end the pain and just move on. Curiously, 3 of primary ring-leaders back then in the local chapter here are now married, engaged, or in long-term live-in relationships, and out of the active membership. Funny, that...
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#1365781 - Today at 01:32 PM Re: MLC Walk Away Wife [Re: Zebra] Broken Tree Broken Tree Member
Registered: 01/14/08 Posts: 293 That's bueatiful and so true it is unreal. I feel sick today over this. I thought things were going so well. Some times I love her so much and other I want to spit when i see her. What is going on in my head? I can't wait to see the Pysc Monday. I know he is going to tell me to pack up and get out but he also told me never to leave the house and kids w/ my wako MLC WAW. He and all others said I have an excellent chance of getting the kids. One lawyer told me it would be a 30K retainer if I wanted to go that route. I would love to save my marrage and lots of $$$$$. I need to get my wife healthy. Thoughts?
I really feel very bad for her and wnat is going on inside her little MLC head but I know I can not help her. She must either wake up seek intense help.
Sorry to hear you're having a tough go of it right now. There's a lot of confusion and hurt and fear. Good for you for continuing your IC and getting support on the boards here. What plans do you have for you this weekend?
Old threads lock up when they get to a certain number of posts, or when they reach a certain level of inactivity. I don't know exactly. But the old ones do not open back up. You just have to move on.
hmmm....sounds familiar.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
Took the kids to our favorate College basketball team game tonight. They won by 2 points. Wife and i are not very happy with each other today. Just bad communication over last night. Tommorrow is another day. Soccer in the morn from 9-12 which will give W some space. I wish she would come out of this fog. I am starting to have a very difficult time holding on. There just seems to be so much happiness and love out there that i really long for again. I feel like I am kissing my grandmother when I kiss her goodbye. I need passion and love to survive. It is a basic neccesity. I need patience and time but it is so hard!
There just seems to be so much happiness and love out there that i really long for again. I feel like I am kissing my grandmother when I kiss her goodbye. I need passion and love to survive. It is a basic neccesity. I need patience and time but it is so hard!
YES! There is love in the world! Lots of it! And it is all yours to share. One day you will have it. With or without your W. It's yours to decide, when you have been patient enough.
For now you don't have eros love, but you can continue to show agape love. (see here) You are not completely happy, but you have had much progress! So much!
You will have good days and bad days. I like the thought - tomorrow is another day.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
