H48 W42 S14 S12 Married 16 Together 18 D bomb 01/07/08 PA discovered 02/04/08
Hi I previously posted in Newcomers. My wife has today, I think, given up her OM he has flown to his home country. She is obviously hurt and sorrowful at having to let him go. I genuinely feel her hurt and wish to comfort her in some way.
I have been desperate to keep us together,because I love her an d we have two great sons, who I could not bear to be hurt in anyway. I have pledged to be her friend however now the PA is over I am finding the pain, which spills into anger and resentment almost unbearable, worse than before!!. I find I am having to avoid her just not to make things worse. I expected the end of the PA to be a relief, it just seems the start in a new cycle of pain. She says she wants a divorce anyway but at the moment has no grounds.
Help: I am desperate to know how to deal with the pain without making things worse and I need some serious advice on the next stage in DBing. Will time start to heal on its own... Thanks.
Time will help. But also, get some good books on the subject and start reading them immediately!!! They will really help you understand affairs much better. Go to a Barnes and Noble's or Borders and start reading. It will help immensely. DB and DR also have good information too.
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