I have been lurking here for some time but have never posted. I am separated for a little over a month and have been DBing like crazy! I have put up a strong front and have not backslid once. Am just beginning to show WAW my 180 and have felt very, very positive.
However... she just called me and said she has the D petition and is on her way to the courthouse to file. We have no children or community assets. She just files and 60 days later we are done.
What should I do? What should I do? I DON'T WANT THIS!
Upon speaking to her, I tried not to get desperate. I simply told her that ultimately I did not want the divorce, but understood that she did and that I loved her enough to let her go, just want her to be happy etc.
She is determined to file today. What can I do?
Me: 35 WAW: 28 Bomb: 1/13/08 S: 1/14/08 D filed: 2/24/08 D final on 7/07/08
Do your damndest in an ostentatious manner all the time. -George S. Patton
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I whish you well. I understand that silence on the board can be defining, but speaking as a H who is losing his wife faster everyday I can say that if you love your W be patient and realise that 60 days is a long time. I know that as I approuch excactly your same delema ( My W is moving out tommorow but she still wants to date..yet pushes me away with her every breath) I would be frantic. DONT PANIC!! You said you have 60 days untill its desided. keep DBing and if it does fall throu ask yourself
1 did I try my best, because no one can make someone else do something they dont want. so if your trying and your W is not respondinh thats her fault not yours. and If thats the case
2. is the person she is now someone you would want top be with anyway? I am haveing a real hard tiome with this one myself because I have been married for 2 years and we lived together for 6. The wife I fell in love with waqs my best friend and lover. Now she Is cold to me and soemtimes mean. I have donebad things in out marrage but I made a desiosion to get better, whiel she hided behind a inability to forgive. the persone I love would not do that. Will both you and I keep trying HELL YES! but if in the end she dose not meet you half way....is thast the persone you commited yourself to or could be with even if she did come back.
there is nothing you can do to stop her from filing.
there MAY be things you could do, to make your wife not wish to finalize the divorce when the time comes.
How about you post about why your wife separated, and why she is filing for divorce?
And do you know who the Other Man is, and why your wife is interested in him? Because, almost every single man on here whose wife has moved out, has "someone" that she is interested in.
PS: also, how old are each of you, and how long have you been married?
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
