The article sounds interesting. But far from the issues that we have on this board. By the time some are on this board, it's gone way past the issues listed.
Kellie ------ Me - 27 H - 31 S - born 8/18/2007 Married - 4/24/2005 Together - 7/03/2002
My wife basically has ALL the issues for not having sex. My guess is that most women are going to experience many if not all the issues in that article.
I think possible the biggest cause of low libido is womens lib. For two reasons. One, womens lib tends to create men that are "Nice Guys", which we now know is not a good thing. Two, women are no brought up trying to do it All. Women are exhusted by the end of the day because they are trying to be teh traditional homemaker AND breadwinner. This means that something has to give, and that is almost always their relationship with their man.
cemar - I am not a feminist but I very well could be if you choose to dissect my life. Women's lib has NOTHING to do with libido. I know women that are SAHW with and w/out kids with the same problem. As we age, our hormones change. Outside stress affects libido. Relationship issues affect it. It is challenging to keep love alive and probably something that should be worked at every day. Unfortunately, that often isn't realistic in today's world. It isn't about women's lib.
I do believe that womens lib has changed a lot of things. My first comment was that it has changed men, and NOT for the better. The second comment was about women, and yes, I do believe that womens lib has caused women to want it ALL, and they end up burning the candle at both ends. When this happens, the RELATIONSHIP is the FIRST thing to suffer. I work around women that are career oriented, and their children suffer, and from the comments the women make about their husbands, it is clear that their husbands are suffering. The really BAD assumption that these career women make is that they believe that their husbands have the same objectives in life as THEY do, and this is not normally true. Do I want her to have a career? Yes, but not at the expense of OUR relationship.
I agree with some of your philosophical premises... but let us not forget that women's lib was not born to specifically piss off men and ruin the family structure... it was born of a need to change the way a predominantly white anglo saxton MALE society treated those different than itself. Pretty much, if you were not a white male, you were nothing; and treatment often reflected that sentiment. (Not even getting into class and social structure).
By and large, stay at home mom's are not respected in this country, by men OR women; being a wife and a mother, up until fairly recently, was considered nothing more than a duty of the female gender, and she had little, if no choice on that score.
I suppose if your male ancestors had been a bit more pleasant, compassionate and respectful toward their women, the liberation movement would have been unnecessary.
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The really BAD assumption that these career women make is that they believe that their husbands have the same objectives in life as THEY do, and this is not normally true.
I agree with this.
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Do I want her to have a career? Yes, but not at the expense of OUR relationship.
And I'm going to bet you never discussed that want of yours with your wife BEFORE you got married.
Cemar, the poo was in your generalizing to MOST, ALL, MANY. I have no quarrel with the info, just the fact that you assumed ie applied it to so many women of whom you have no knowledge.
