Sue, lol at your D3 testing your boundaries. We used to spend 2 weeks at our grandparents every summer, and my mom now admits DREADING picking us up because we were so spoiled while we were gone. She got so tired of hearing "Well, grandma lets us...." LOL!
Sara, that was great! They forgot to mention defragmentation of the harddrive. I think all WAS (male or female) need that to get their brains back in order!
I would imagine that the intimates would give the impression that he actually still has intimacy with his wife......God forbid anyone think that. Who knows!! I could be off base.
I think next time you need to plant some sexy stuff around the house for him (or anyone else!) to find. Like a Victoria's Secret "Sexy Little Thing" bra (hot pink!), partially hidden behind a pillow on the couch!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Just lurking along. Wishing you luck with everchanging moods of h. Sara's post made me laugh. I dont know about you but i cant wait for it to warm up. -27 here this morning (rediculus).
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Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm back!! It's all the talk of intimates that brought me rushing back to your sitch (been off having fun). Belated Valentines to you all and a Rose to all you special ladies. My Romance package has been upgraded to version 2 (I would like to say my Stud Muffin programme was version 3, but that would crash my Truth 2.22.5!!)
SueS, you were looking for my email address - psully@totalise.co.uk. Happy to hear from you.
Paul!!....If all I have to do to get you back to the board is talk about "intimates" then I'll do it a lot more often!! I'm glad your romance package has been upgraded! You are too funny!
LS- Yes, I'm really ready for some warmer weather. Sounds like you were a bit colder than us. I think it was about -12 here. My parents are in SD and they were at your -25 temps with -40 wind chills. Not fun.
Journaling:
I had D3 call H before bed last night. She handed the phone to me and he joked with me a bit until I thanked him for doing something at home for me and I got the "Whatever" response. I wanted to ask if he was a 40-year old man or 16-year old boy? Kept that one to myself. Trying to avoid H's cold mood lately. I was laying in bed last night thinking about things and had absolutely no feelings whatsoever either way. It was kind of scary to me because I felt cold inside myself. He's pulled away from being close to me again. He slept on the futon in the den last night also. That's okay though. I won't ask him or beg him to come to my bed. I've done it before and I just can't right now.
D3 snuggled with me last night. I got her in her own bed later but she woke up twice. She has the very loud MOM yell when she's 1/2 asleep.
Time to get back to work!
I may be on later this evening. Thanks for stopping everyone!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
I hate that 'whatever' response. So immature. It gets completed ignored in our house.
Feeling neutral is ok, I am sure its just a bit of detaching going on. You are letting the little things slide (and not letting them bother you), and this is good. Keep it up, for your own sanity!
Well, I thought I'd update my thread now, as it will be a busy day at work today. It will be more of my journaling.
Journaling...... Decent day at work yesterday. Busy and that's good. Picked D3 up from school and got big, big hugs. Had dinner and just did a few things around the house. Had D3 call H last night about 8:35 pm to say good-night. H's voicemail at work said he was already gone for the night. He's scheduled until 9:00 pm. Called his cell & he was acting a bit strange. Was okay with us, just strange. He told D3 he'd see her in the morning, which meant that he was going out. I woke up at 1:00, 2:00 and 3:00 am. H was not home. I finally called at 3:00 am. No answer. I heard H come in the house at 3:30 am. WTF??? I'm so angry. This isn't just about him. He's not a 21-year old, single man. He's a 40-year old, married man with a child. I also found a phone number by his clothes this morning. Must have dropped out of his pocket. I have been wondering ever since the concert that H and I went to (flirting with & asking another woman for her number), if H is not only playing me, but playing OW (his soul mate!) too. Just seems as if H has spiraled out of control the past week. He had come closer and had been much friendlier the two weeks that D3 was gone, but he's completely backed off now.
I'm trying hard not to make my thoughts and journaling all about H. I'm just angry. More angry because I feel like he's letting his daughter down with all his antics. Again today, other than the anger, I don't feel anything. I'm not sad. I'm angry about finances too. Obviously it costs money to go out and do the things that H does, but yet we had to send D3 to my parents for 2 weeks because H couldn't afford daycare & I had to pay for groceries because H could afford them.
I took my ring off for the first time today. I'm still not sure if that's what I want, but I'm angry today. Angry that H has started to pull this crap again. He obviously has no committment to me and I feel that my ring was a sign of that.
Time to get working.
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 02/22/0802:31 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
then I'll do it a lot more often!! 
I'm glad your romance package has been upgraded! You are too funny!
It was kind of scary to me because I felt cold inside myself. He's pulled away from being close to me again. He slept on the futon in the den last night also. That's okay though. I won't ask him or beg him to come to my bed. I've done it before and I just can't right now.
I got her in her own bed later but she woke up twice. She has the very loud MOM yell when she's 1/2 asleep.