I think this is my fourth go around. I guess that makes me a veteran. Wish I knew how to paste my previous threads. Sunday night was pretty interesting. After we put D7 to bed, W & I were watching TV together when i mentionned my dad. Believe it or not her eyes began to water as she mentioned that my folks were the finest people she has ever met. W then said please don't interpret this wrong and again I got the straddle on the couch. i asked her point blank if you do not want me to interpret this wrong, please tell me what you are doing. She said she just wanted a hug and to cuddle. She also wanted to put on some music but noticed it was getting late and decided to go to bed. Another thing she mentionned was Feb. 17 (next Sunday) being the anniversary of her sister's death. She quickly said forget it. I have a feeling she wanted to share something with me but i did not push. I don't know if i should ask her about it or wait for her to bring it up again Thursday is Valentine's day....so the continuing questions of what to do or not to do has begun in my mind.
I hear you Woog....I just don't know what she is feeling and much less what sje expects from me. Whatever I can do to ease her pain, you know I would do it. I can not guess however and I don't want to push either. I guess I just have to be present.
I understand now why so many of you are saying to stay put. If I am not home, last night's episode would not have happened. Is it major? Probably not but like I said earlier I do see some changes. Something tells me however that she needs to proove something to herself or to other people.
I am feeling stronger than ever but like most people I do have my down days....usually when i start thinking about the time we are wasting.
I hear you Woog....I just don't know what she is feeling and much less what sje expects from me. Whatever I can do to ease her pain, you know I would do it. I can not guess however and I don't want to push either. I guess I just have to be present.
I understand now why so many of you are saying to stay put. If I am not home, last night's episode would not have happened. Is it major? Probably not but like I said earlier I do see some changes. Something tells me however that she needs to proove something to herself or to other people.
I am feeling stronger than ever but like most people I do have my down days....usually when i start thinking about the time we are wasting.
John, sounds as if your w is really hurting. Be strong for her. Do something for her for V day- Maybe one small flower and a note that says you're thinking about her and are there for her. What is her love language- do you cook? I don't know, but sounds as if things are going well in your fort. Glad you stayed. Wish I had never left - this is 17 months later that I am wishing that. Just 6 more weeks and he can get a D even without my signature. Please pray for me and stay put things are going well. Lady Di
You bet I will pray for you and all others on these boards who want there marriages to get back on track. Yes, I do cook....often and well. I think her LL is words of affirmation.
John, check out rejoiceministries.org's Charlyne Cares devotional for today the name of it is "A Valentine's Gift Guide for Prodigals."
My spin on what to do is maybe make her a card - with your words comforting her b/c of the anniversary of the death of her sister - just letting her know you are her #1 cheerleader. Just pray about it and let God be your guide. I have made three cards for my H on the computer. I am still praying about which one to send, if I should send it.
One card is a beautiful landscape watercolor that simply says, "Earth has not sorrow that heaven cannot heal." My spouse is hurting too. Lost his best friend and his cousin right about the time of our separation.
