Second thread locked up. I suppose at some point it won't be a big deal anymore.
I have no idea where things are right now. I don't think I can ask (can I?) and from the experiences of others, I guess it's possible to be 'working' on our M for a long time before my H actually acknowledges that that's going on.
I have a feeling I won't be posting much on this thread - unless things take a turn for the worse (or better, I guess) - because there are only so many ways you can say that nothing's changed!
I've been in the 'computer room' for about an hour (working on a project) and my H has been sitting beside me playing his favourite (violent) computer game. At first, it was really freaking me out - I know there are women there too - but now I've calmed down a little bit, as he's talking to me and explaining a bit about what's going on. I wish he didn't like that kind of stuff, but if it's only a game, I can live with it.
He's looked over at my screen a few times and I have been much too obviously protective of it since I switched over to this site. Wonder what he thinks I'm doing?
I've been thinking of changing my display name, because I can see myself wanting to refer friends to this site, but not particularly wanting them to go and read all my posts, so I need a 'disguise'. For those that want to continue to drop in, I'll let you know what I'll be changing it to once I think of something.
Starting to really enjoy all these little emoticons - that's a bit of a 180 for me!
I don't know, piecing seems to involve both people, doesn't it? We still haven't talked about anything and I'm starting to feel pretty lonely. There is defintely still a line and I can tell when I've crossed it, so I'm still trying not to use the word 'we' in any way that refers to the future, etc. HE is talking about the upcoming baseball season (our S plays) as though we will be partipating together and I suppose we still would be - just perhaps separately.
SG, doesn't he have to have commited in some way to being here? I can see by his behaviour that he's trying (and he's really being very affectionate and tender, for the most part) - and I've certainly learned that I can't trust his words to reflect appropriate MARRIED behaviour - but I'd like to be able to talk about issues at least a little bit. Right now there's still so much under the surface - do we ever get to bring it out into the light?
I know it's hard, but I would try not to label the r. If it's MLC, it's not going to be an abrupt ending to the crisis (maybe he's nearing the end, though? That's what I'm hoping in my sitch). In the meantime, you could post in both forums.
Good idea, the goal setting. It was very helpful and encouraging in the early days. I do see some signs of that. I guess I'm just thinking that it would be nice to just relax for a little while.
Do you find people's posts on forums? Because I just see what's been happening lately, which means that I can drop in on other forum 'conversations' if they seem relevant. Sometimes I don't make it back very far, though.
I have no idea where things are right now. I don't think I can ask (can I?) and from the experiences of others, I guess it's possible to be 'working' on our M for a long time before my H actually acknowledges that that's going on.
