Oh that's just awful. I am so sorry. I know how much it hurts. And yes, things like this can bring us back to the raw pain. I am thinking about you today. Try and focus on other things to pass the time.
Plus, I am deluding myself into believing that this new relationship will burn itself out, that a ready-made family will get on H's nerves eventually, and that a "family vacation" with GF and three girls will add stress to H's wonderful world....
Kimmie, The things our WAS do never make any sense -- at least to us. It sounds like you have a wonderful supportive family. Get their help. Don't go through this alone. The summer is still quite a ways away, too.
I am thissss close to sending the following email to my H:
"I am attending church tomorrow as I have not broken my vows to our wedding sacrament. I am also able say grace without feeling like a hypocrite and my conscience is clear. Would you like to join me in worship tomorrow?"
DON'T!!!! I know, it feels right to send it, but he knows what he is doing. If you want to save your M, then he needs space. And you are right, your H will not find his 'vacation' much of a vacation with 3 kids!
Please believe me when I say that I was just seconds away from sending this email. It felt so right because it is so true.
I cannot understand why my H can walk into our church without feeling like a hypocrite. We are both Russian Orthodox Christian converts, we were both baptized together as adults, and were married into this church. I simply do not understand how he can continue on as though this means nothing. He acts so pious and it is making me sick!
You told me that we could go to church and sit together so I was wondering if you would like to join me at church tomorrow. I have been attending regularly with my head held high, and I find it very helpful as I have not broken my sacramental vows through infidelity, nor do I feel like a hypocrite when I say grace over my meals.
I have been feeling a lot better lately since I have been adhering to the tenets of our faith. I think it would be helpful if you and I could make time to speak with Father John as a couple. He has helped me more than you will ever know just one on one. I have come to realize that our church views divorce as an abomination, and I am agreeable to any counseling they have to offer.
I will not give up on us, nor will I feel that we are done until we have availed ourselves of everything that our faith has to offer us in the way of reconciliation.
You and I entered the church and were baptized together; you and I were married in front of that altar as one. I would hope that you would respect that enough to speak with our priest
