You ARE amazing. I am just thrilled your H realized this before it was too late.
OW will keep fighting, keep causing trouble, keep trying to get to you. You are doing everything right. She is a mess. H sees now just how attractive a put together, responsible woman is...
Thanks everyone. His comment touched the very core of my heart and soul.
H got home today and said OW called him and apologized for yesterday. She said to apologize to me, too. She also said she was never touching another drop of booze. I told him she never emailed me like she said she did. He said, of course she didn't, then called her a b!tch. So, LWB you definitely hit the nail on the head that he is seeing her for what she is.
Your H is really proving to be the exception that proves the rule -- that these WAS' are just too dense to figure how wonderful their LBS' really are. Your H seems to truly recognize how he was foolish enough to almost throw away the best thing that's ever happened to him.
Thanks, guys. I don't know if it's so much that he's the exception to the rule, perhaps ... but the biggest thing I had going for me was that OW turned into a complete witch! She did everything that you're not supposed to: Begging, pleading, making demands (which he HATES), getting angry, while I was the exact opposite. So if anyone really needed any other proof that PMA works, there you go...
I know I made my mistakes in the beginning. I pursued too much but I think we all do that at first. But I owe her my 'thanks.'
Hi Joie, Here is the link to the program I was talking about. It is pretty interesting story. I really do think manipulation of affair partner is big role in affair (and OW's personal issues)
Beauty, I took a look at the Oprah show. That was very interesting. Actually, I'm mystified that all the OW they interviewed pretty much blamed the A on the man! That all they did was lie about being married and how bad their wife was. Come on!
We sure know from this board that is not always the case. I know OW pursued my H somewhat. He was not her first A. Same thing with the OW for LWB.
On the other hand, they said the wife never really mattered to them. They just didn't think about her... Sounds like they are in as big a fog as the cheating H!
H came home last night and before sitting down to dinner said he had 'a situation to take care of.' I immediately thought, GREAT, I guess OW is back on the booze. She was off the wagon for a total of 2 days! I was really irked.
H then went into the bathroom. I thought, that's weird, is he going to call her from in there? When he came out, he sat down and said, that's better. I said, did you take care of your sitch in the bathroom?! He said yes, leaving me more confused.
He wanted to know what I thought he was referring to so I told him. I thought OW was on the warpath again and you were calling her. He started laughing...
Well, I had assumed the "situation" he was talking about was OW. He said his stomach had been bothering him all day and he really needed to get in the bathroom.
What an indication of how much we get consumed by all this crap (no pun intended)...
