Just a really fun night with the girls. I had forgotten what it was like to go out and enjoy being with people. My X basically didn't like people. He would find reasons to cut friendships, including my friendships. So I have had friends over the years, but it was mainly through phone conversations, never much social interaction. We were "friends" with other families from the kids activities, going out to eat after a game, etc. but never really socialized aside from that. I went out with my girlfriends last night and we had a blast. We had a few drinks, talked, laughed, just really enjoyed ourselves.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
My X got married to the OW yesterday. Isn't that romantic, they got married on Valentine's day. As my D20 pointed out, that is ridiculous considering he "never believed in V-Say." She said he is soooo different around his new wife, and she sees it for what it is.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
BND, how interesting. I feel like this is the path my XH and OW are taking now. My XH never believed in V-day either and he says things to OW that he never said to me.
I have a daughter who is soon to be 11. How old was your D20 when you divorced? What do you mean when you say "she sees it for what it is"? I'm curious because daddy is D10's hero right now and it makes me sick that she does not know the whole truth. I make it a point to never degrade him in front of her and in fact I try to give compliments...but, for her not to know why he has left kills me sometimes. She is looking up to the wrong man!
My divorce was officially done two weeks ago. I have four kids, D20, D17, D10 and S8.
I never say anything derogatory about X and OW either, the kids know what happened (re the marriage and OW) and they accept it because they have to. It is sad for them.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
She has two kids, daughters around 13 and 16 I think. I am sure he is moving in with her this weekend as the kids are here with me. The kids seem okay, but honestly they have NEVER talked about her or their relationship at all. I think they know it was wrong, but have to accept it so they can have their dad in their life. Two weeks ago on my b-day my S8 told me if he could only have one wish it would be to have his family back.
Another thing that shows how he is, is that he wanted to switch nights with me and not have the kids yesterday, the day he got married. Apparenlty he planned on getting married then telling them next week when he had them Tuesday night. Sad how self-centered he is.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Two weeks ago on my b-day my S8 told me if he could only have one wish it would be to have his family back.
Poor thing! I say that all the time too My D10 doesn't talk about it much either.
It really is completely self-centeredness. My XH even said to me that it was about time he started thinking about himself for once in his life...ha ha...it's pretty much always been that way.
Well, at least we don't have to deal with the self-centeredness anymore. Leave that to their new little wenches
