I put this in my other post buut I need immediate help because H lost it this morning. I want to be as knowledgeable as possible.
I don't want to ask my lawyer this question as I have a feeling what she would say...
How do I go about coming up with an alimony figure for being married 25 years without filling oput a financial statement?
I want to keep this amicable.
When this all started we both said that we would keep this peaceful and do as much as we could without the lawyers
He has gone behind my back and done his financial statement with his lawyer anyway
He is putting in the financial statement things that don't make sense. (his monthly grooming bill $100? He shaves his head!,This among other things don't make sense at all!)
I still would like to do this out of the lawyers hands, how do I get alimony without sending in my financial statement?
I know how to divide up things but how do I do the alimony part without putting in to the lawyer financial details?
Can anyone help me please???
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
I think there are websites which have calculators that would help determine this.
You will have to do a web search on this.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You just come up with a figure you both agree on. The lawyers if involved just negotiate this anyway. Yes it is based on a calculation but this was adjusted in my case to satisfy both parties. How much do you need to live on? Look at your bills, etc..
My ex did the same thing as yours. He came up with ridiculous expenditures. He lied and lied and lied. It was very appalling. They will do this, part of the MLC script.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
.K. so if I add up what it costs for the bills for the house and the bills for me monthly, hopefully my H will agree to this #, and we can come up with a number that's it?
What happens if in 3 years the amounts go up?
What then?
Am I locked into this number?
I don't want to screww this up if it is for the rest of my life
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
I really think a lawyer would be helpful in your case.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm sorry this is happening E! I think you need to use the lawyer, your H is planning to take advantage of your desire to be amicable. In the end, you'll be the one that pays. He has already decided the path he is going to take. There really isn't a benefit to you in not protecting yourself.
What do you think of me telling him that I'm not going for the juggular and that I just want what I need to keep things like they were when were together?
If I see what mood he is in first?
I'm not a mean person more like a very passive one.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
I don't know how it all plays out, but here's what I think. He has chosen to go the L route, so you have to as well. And you might as well get what you can legally get....it's the lawyers, not you! Don't tell him what you are or are not doing, he chose the path, he can live with it.
