I am starting this thread as a supportive measure for the LDW on this board. It is partially in response to mrscac's feelings about a negative post directed at her and posts that I have been hurt by as well.
I am sure that LDM feel some of the same things, but I would imagine it is not exactly the same. So, I'm reaching out to other LDW.
Many days, I feel like a failure. If I could take a pill and make it all better, I would. And I tried. I wonder how many HDM would take a pill to lower their libido? None, I assume. Why would they? Why miss out on a stress reliever - on something that brings a couple closer together - on something that makes you feel good.
It does not feel good to sometimes experience an aversion to sex with your partner, either because it is too much work for so little reward or because you're just exhausted or because you feel inferior because you aren't the enthusiastic lover they desire.
I am struggling to end the polarity in my sex drive and my H's. I'm entitled to good sex too. I'm frustrated that it is so hard for me to achieve.
Maybe if I felt raging hormones and strong desire the inhibitions that have developed would go away. But the hormones aren't there. I'm numb.
I'm sure there are LDW who have just given up, but I don't think they are on this board. The LDW here seem to be trying to find their way through the darkness.
Let's support each other. I'm a LDW, and I'm here, and I'm listening.
