My parents don't know. My W doesn't want my mother to know because "she doesn't want to deal with it". I do have to admit that my mother is a PITA, so I can't fault the W on that.
John, enjoy the limbo. Focus of yourself and your D7. Now that I'm out of limbo I want it back.
The others are right, your family just wants you to be happy and for your hurt to end. They just don't understand what you are going through. My parents know and mom my wants us to work out, but my dad said he would pay for the lawyer so my H gets limited visitation with our S (he thinks my Hs lifestyle is damaging and doesn't want our S to think it is ok). I didn't tell my parents, but they can tell because H hasn't come down as often (my parents bought the house directly behind me-yes, it is soooo Everybody Loves Raymond LOL). My H just told his parents that we were having problems, not what they were, so they don't know he is doing his stuff again.
Everybody means well, but you need to go with what you feel is best for you-"Trust your hunches. They're usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level." – Dr. Joyce Brothers
Keep on being strong!
B.
ME 34 H 33 Married 02/11/2006 1st bomb- 06/05/2006 final 01/07/2008
I hear what you and the good doctor are saying....I am afraid however that my parents may be more right than I am willing to admit. I love my W unconditionally (ok pretty close to it anyway) but her recent actions (last 6 months) are not in line with my values even less that of my family (which does not really matter). I am struggling with all this, now that the initial shock is wearing off. As I said earlier I am in the D7 protection mode right now. I can deal with the rest. I guess I am lovingly detaching at this point.
That's not your W. It's an alien. Think about it that way (I know... goofy, but a good analogy). You never know, the aliens may let her go and you'll get your W back. Never say never.
i know what you mean woog.....the alien was in and out of her during our supper last Saturday night. That is what gives me hope.....I could have been a little less ALIENated myself.
You have to try to stay calm and rational. I'm doing the best I can and my W is saying some crazy stuff. If you fight her or tell her what a mistake she is making you are only going to push her further away.
Let go of the rope. What she does with it is up to her then.
I don't do calm and rational very well...but i am trying like hell...... I think she is feeling the rope loosen quite a bit lately...perhaps that is why she is so unsure lately.....we will see how this evening goes.........it looks like it will be D7 and I for supper....W will probably be home late.
I did not sleep well last night. i have the feeling we are going through the motions. w told me she is having her new girlfriends over for supper on Saturday night (no kids no husbands). She also said she and her partner were going to France on business for 10 days in April, Interesting she said this time it's true (refering to my accusations). I replied do we have to go there. Watched a little TV together and chatted. She said it's nice to not always talk about work. She then said good night and went to bed.
