I am a little unsure of a few things, maybe you can steer me back on course.
Firstly, I am a little unsure of how my relationship should be now.
How can I tell if I am doing things for me and not for approval?
How should things be to be healthy?
What's normal?
The reason I ask is for so long infact ever since I met my H we've had a turmoil in our lives. I now am not sure what to expect from a healthy marriage.
In fact I'm unsure what one is?
I've been so use to trying to figure out what's wrong and how to fix it that now I don't know what I should be doing?
I am finding it a little unfamiliar and uncomfortable. I thought I'd be happy once I'd at last stated my needs, I know i have to guard the agreements we've made but as for a healthy relationship I haven't a clue what's normal.
You told your child to do something, the child decided to do something else first, you asked her three maybe four times using the broken record technique.
Then your husband/wife intervened and said to your child, "Go to your room, I am not having you ignoring your mother".
You were left feeling angry because the person triggered a helpless feeling within you.
You tell your husband/wife you were handling things, they say "I won't sit back whist xxxxx, treats you with disrespect, she/he'll be running ring around you next, when I am not here."
Has this person step over your boundaries???
I felt angry because and frustrated with myself because I wasn't sure what to do??
What could I have done that would be effective???
How would you handle this, so that you were being respectful to your husband/wife?
Also how could I handled this so I was respecting my child???
I hope someone posts as I am feeling very frustrated as this happens alot of times.
