Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You???

[SueS]

Karen-

Please don't think that you upset me. Not at all. I understand about alcoholics. My father is an 8 year recovering alcoholic. They say they're always recovering, right? You're never a former alcoholic. I think that's what they say. I also have alcoholics in the family.

It's tough trying to spend time around H when he's not drinking. Now he's not the alcoholic that drinks every day, so I don't mean it like that. He's the one who 99% of the time just can't stop drinking once he starts and he drinks when things get tough. And, he usually drinks when we go out. Yes, he does drink a few times a week, but he typically goes to extremes when he does drink. He's the type that will come home after being out drinking and looks for ANY type of alcohol he can find in the house so he can keep drinking. I can't count the number of times I've thrown away a 3/4 full beer that he has in his hand after he's passed out. He'll open that last one, take 2 sips, sit down on the couch and pass out. Knowing so many alcoholics, you probably understand what I mean. H has gotten drunk at many, many family events, so both my family & his family knows he has a problem. He got VERY, VERY drunk the day/night of his mom's visitation. His dad knows that he drinks a lot, but that particular incident was very hard for my FIL. There was NO denying that he'd been drinking. He even MADE me stop at a liquor store on the way back to our hotel. He self medicates. But, because he's not the type that tv/movies typically portray, one that drinks heavily every day (Leaving Las Vegas) he doesn't think or refuses to admit he has a problem.

SueS

[Pamar]

SueS,

Happy birthday for tomorrow. Do something just for you and enjoy it. Also get the girls to force you to let your hair down (I know how bad you girls can be).

Above all, make it your day and don't let the idiot spoil it.

Love Paul

[SueS]

Paul-

Thanks so much! Do you know that I got tears in my eyes just seeing your name when I popped up all the threads. You always have such nice things to say.

I'll do what I can to let my hair down.

I hope you're doing well. I will be checking on you.

By the way, I thought you gave me an email address before. Would you mind forwarding that again.

Thanks! Your the best!

-Sue

[Yoyowife]

Sue,
He doesn't realize it, and I'm not sure that you realize it, but you are a much stronger person. He needs you, you do not need him. Let him know this, take action. He needs to see the consequences. I know this will be difficult, but he needs tough love right now. You do not deserve such disrespect. Your daughter does not deserve to have this in her life. Take care of yourself and you precious DD. If you haven't already read "Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson, I think you need to. Read the book before you decide what to do. It may be the right thing for you to do, it may not. Only you will know, but I think it is definitely an option.

Hugs,

[fightingirish]

Sues,

Just checking up on you.. I hope your ok.

thinking of you...

tal

[Yoyowife]

Sue,
I hope my last post wasn't too harsh. I think you are such a wonderful person, and I hate the way he treats you. He just makes me so mad!

[SueS]

Yoyo-

No, not harsh at all. I actually started to read Love Must Be Tough, but had to take it back to the library. I do need to go get my own copy. Most days I don't feel that strong. I know what needs to be done, but I can't pull that strength yet to do it. I'm going home next weekend and I might sit down with my mom and go over some finances. She's an accountant and told me that she'd help me figure some things out. Finding the courage and strength to put a plan together is tough.

I appreciate the support. I truly do.

Hi to you too TAL. I'm okay. Thanks for checking on me.

SueS

[Yoyowife]

Sue,
It's hard when your head is telling you one thing and your heart is telling you another...but he is such an a$$!!!!!

[SueS]

Yoyo-

You said exactly what I'm feeling. I see what's going on and reading a few other's sitchs is like looking in a mirror. I get so mad reading about what other H/W's have done. But for me, my heart is having a tough time accepting things.

SueS

[saffie]

Hey Sue,

Thanks for popping in and saying Hi on my thread.

I have been keeping up with your sitch and I know you will have the strength to deal with things when the time comes that you think you need to. You have my full support in whatever you decide to do. I just wish your H could recognize how strong you really are.

Tomorrow has got to be a special day for you - bet your D makes it very special.

(((((((((((big hugs for a special lady)))))))))))))