Making progress...slowly

[LL44]

OM wouldn't be the victor. Sadly, no one wins in our situations. hurtin, I think there is bound to be back and forths, but our question is how long can we hold out?

Take care of yourself.

[fightingirish]

H4c,

Lwb is right.. the back and forth I think is the worst part, because you get your hopes up, just to be knocked down again..

You have to ask yourself how much can I take without totally losing yourself in the process. If you think there is hope, only you can answer that.

Its not fair.

[Hurtin4certain]

The thing that sucks is that I feel like Im back to square one. I beleived in what she told me and now Im devastated all over again.

Im starting to wonder if she really loves me afterall. Or maybe she just doesnt want me to move on and stay in limbo in case OM doesnt work out.

My daughter is so confused because we were doing things as a family a few weeks ago and now she is back on with OM. Exactly what happened when this first started.

I dont know how to stop the cycle. I still love her.

[LL44]

Your poor daughter. I am very sorry. Your wife should be ashamed of herself for all that she has put your D8 through.

Who knows what your W is thinking, I wish we knew. I just hope she comes to her senses soon because you are eventually going to get rid of the raw pain. To me, at this moment, it means filing for divorce and going through with it.

I am so sorry.

[JoieDeVivre]

H4C,
(((HUGS))) from me. From what I've read, the WAS can go back and forth many times. The appeal of the A, and the OP, starts to wear off. They start to see that this person is not perfect either. So, they come your way a bit. Then the addiction pulls them back.

I agree with TAL and LWB, how long can you hold out? Make your emotional and mental wellbeing, and that of your D8, your priority.

Perhaps she is just keeping you in limbo. Is it coincidence that 2 weeks ago she was texting you ILY, etc, and you dismissed the petition at the same time?

Joie

[Hurtin4certain]

Thanks for the reply ladies...

If my W had only a smidgen of the character as all of you fine DB women have, I would be the luckiest man in the world.

I simply cannot believe a man would turn his back on women such as yourselves. DOesnt make sense to me.

Thanks again for caring, without you gals I'd be lost.

[Yoyowife]

((((H4C)))))
How are things going? Hope things are better.

Hugs

[Hurtin4certain]

Well.. W wants to talk...again.

Apparently she has been having medical issues (ovaries hurt etc.). That only happened when we had sex in the past, go figure.

I asked if she was still sleeping with OM, she didnt answer. Read ya loud and clear. She wants to meet face to face and started crying, maybe she wants a divorce? Maybe she misses me?

[lovelyolive]

H4C - you have been through so many ups and downs over the years. My heart goes out to you.

Stay strong when you see her face to face. Remember what it is that YOU want. When does she want to meet?

[Hurtin4certain]

Thanks Olive... she wants to meet tomorrow. I just had a thought that she might be pregnant, that would really really really hurt me. It's totally possible too.

D told me W, OM and W's sisters all went out to eat and drank beer at a chicken wings place. Freakin 2 weeks ago she couldnt stop thinking of me, felt so lost without me, wasnt sleeping with OM.

Now she is sleeping with OM, partying with OM and she even told me she just joined the gym as she has gained 20 pounds. D told me she drinks 5-6 beers a day.

Im really towards the end of the ride here, contemplating filing for divorce again and following through. I miss a womans companionship and would love to just hang out at the park with someone of the opposite sex and talk. Im tired of waiting for W, her bi-polar is never going to go away and OM offers her more than I can (even though all he is is a waiter at a restaurant).

Im still Hurtin4certain