Breaking Through???

[Sue]

Chris,

thats a great thought!
Do you have a gratitude journal?

Sue

Chris,

Wow, it really sounds like you are on your path to a really happy life with that special someone that you said I do too... I am so happy for you... I too am on this journey and have been now for about 4 1/2 months... Times were really hard, others were just to sad to hold on but I did... Read my thread on this page and please help... You seem like you really know what you are doing here...

Jen

[Chelsea]

Hi Chris,

Haven't heard from you in quite some time about your progress. How are things going for you and your W? More baby steps? I hope all is well.

Just checking to see how you are doing.

Chelsea

[ChrisJ]

My Friends,

Lost a long post this am grrrr.

Anyway in summary we have just had another session of therapy and our councillor has got down to solution orientated type seesions.

Basically we all understand how we got to where we are right now (me W and theripist) and now all want to move on.

I won't go into the details but in a nutshell it is time to start verbally expressing my needs and time for my W to start apprieciating me and accepting me when I do this.

Yesterday was my W's birthday and by the end of the day my W had made several apprieciative and loving comments.

She asked if she could have more frequent birthday's and I replied that I would try to make her feel like every day was her birthday.

The day went really well and I felt good about all the things that I had done for her and how well it was recieved. She said that maybe I had touched on the true meaning of birthday's ... to allow you to spend a full day or day's apprieciating someone special.

She fell asleep last night as I gently stroked her head as she lay on my chest.

Each day becomes easier and less ackward, each day I gain confidence. Each day I feel my W coming slowly closer..

I have changed my view on this rebuilding process as a finite trip, instead I believe what is more important is the journey together.

Chris

[luckyman]

Chris,things seem well for you and the mrs.
Stay patient,and strong,and loving.

peace

[Chelsea]

Oh Chris, things sound just wonderful for you. You now sound like you enjoy rebuilding your marriage with your W (it's not work-like now.) How nice.

I lost myself while reading your post (I put me and my H in your shoes), it gave me a nice warm feeling for the moment; all in good time I hope.

I am so very, very happy for you. It has been a long time waiting, for the things you have been experiencing lately. Your time, patience and good work are paying off.

Please continue to update, I'd love to feed off your positive results.

Chelsea

[This message has been edited by Chelsea (edited 02-28-2000).]

[Rich]

Chris,

Nice to read some good things on the board. Sounds like it was a really nice B-day.

Stay the course. You'll get there.

Take care,
Rich

[luckyman]

Chris,I was just thinking.I hate that.Your W was gone about 6 months.Now she is still not fully back 6 months again.Damn your strong.I hope she relizes how much you really love her.Keep it up,your doing great.

Peace

[Atossup]

Chris,
Please keep us updated with your progress. We need story's like yours out here. Keeps things in perspective for the rest of us. Take care of yourself and your wonderful wife.
Ron

[Johnswife]

Wonderful news Chris. Your patience and hard work are paying off. I am learning the rebuilding process takes patience and hard work too.

I fell asleep before H last night as usual but when I woke later I found he had cuddled up and wrapped himself around me. It felt sooo nice.

Keep up the good work and know I will be sending you and your W good wishes for continued progress.