Hi, Iam Merel and I live in The Netherlands. Sorry for the bad grammar. Iam amazing how much MLC story's are like each other and mine. My husband dropped the bomb at the end of Oct07. At that time he already had an affaire for 1 year with OW. I didnt notice.H was always working late, that wasnt new for me. And he was always home during the weekends. I shall tell something about us. We know each other from high, when we were 16. Now we both are 50. T34,M23.S22, not at home anymore. We desided that I would stay at home and rase S while H made carriere. All went well for 22y(Ithougt23). Sometimes it was a little less during M but not bad at all.No fights, some discussions.Work and carriere for H went well untill 4y ago. At first his father died and a vieuw weeks after that something bad happened at work. H was quicked out as a member of the board of the company but there was another job for him (same company). So they want him to stay.2y after these problems he was back as a member of the same board again! The whole situation frustates him a lot.H worked very hard and during the problems even harder. Last year(06)we desided to spend some money that we safed all those years to buy a boat so that we have more relaxing time beside all the work he was doing. So end of Sept06 we bought the boat and we were very happy that we do so. At Dec06 H started affaire with OW. All 07 untill Oct07 H was lying about everything. H,S and I went on Hollidays, H was sailing races with S, boating with me,friends,MIL, family and so on.H was telling he likes it so much blahblahblah... Making plans for the future. No warning at all! What I did see was that he became more and more frustated, but I thought that it was because of his job.H was always complaining about that.And telling me all the time that he was changed because all of the trubbels. We talked a lot about all of this. And then he told me that we had nothing at all anymore! Now he has OW!!! He already had an apartment in a town closeby his job and OW (30min from our home). It took 10 minutes after telling me that he left the house! No chance for me! 34y gone in 10 minutes. I desided to leave the door open and do not argue. The week after this we had to bring our boat to a place were it stays for wintertime.We did this together in 2 days. It was very nice because I could ask a lot. I was telling him after the first day that all the answeres he gave me look likes if he is in MLC. I told him that he was throwing an love for live away and so on. All the bad stuff, now I know! H looks very cold, cold eyes, doesnt bother him at all. The week after bringing the boat to Friesland I asked him a question and than he told me that he dont know, he would think about it. The answere a week later was no langer his but OW's. Then I stopped asking, pointless to do! So a lot happened mean time.H is calling me sometimes for having dinner out but Iam not calling him. During those dinners a part is good, an other part isnt because he is always asking me what I like to do with the house and so on.He also want a D. Well when he is starting to ask these things Iam so angry that I flipp! Icant help it. Before I'll go I think I can handdle it but I cant. I cant believe were I am in now. Its a very bad movie or something like that. I thought that H was the most trustfull man I evver met! This is real bad!! And it will not stop here. OW is introdused to MIL and SIL's and family during Crhistmas. Everything is going very fast. OW thinks (she told MIL) that its better for H that S will meet her too! S refused. S thinks OW is scum! (S already knows her and I do too. She knows me, Iam the wife of her boss!) (She's a manager at the same company)
Maybe there is someone who can help me?? Its my intention to safe my M. I still love H very much! Why is that so????
Iam loosing weight, change my hair. Doing a course for boating, which I like a lot. (thank God that I have all the papers for boating I need. H has to do 3 exams for it. hahahahah) Iam excercise a lot to be in good shape. And after this course I like to do a course Social Physics.
Je bent hier op het juiste adres...het zijn hier allemaal vriendelijke fantastisch warme mensen ! Ik ben hier al een hele poos en ben wat jonger dan jij, maar heb een ZEER vergelijkbaar verhaal...(ben zelf ook de vrouw van de baas en mijn man is er ook vandoor met een werkneemster..erg jong zelfs ze is 25 en hij 37).
Lees zoveel je kan en weet dat dit een HELE tijd zal kunnen duren. In de laatste alinea geef je al aan dat je een leven aan het opbouwen bent voor jezelf en dat is geweldig ! Ga zo door. Als je kunt, bestel dan het boek via internet, ik vind het een geweldig boek, vol goede tips en adviezen !
Mocht je ooit iets willen weten of vragen kom dan gerust langs mijn 'thread' en ik zal je zo goed mogelijk helpen of steunen !
Groetjes, liefs en heel veel geduld en sterkte xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Ik ben verrast. Nederlandse text terug! Ik zal naar jouw thread gaan. Ik wil wel van je weten of je hier in Nederland woont of in The States. Laat het mij even weten.
Online translator ;-). I have forgotten the basics.
Ik moet Nederland bezoeken werkelijk spoedig, om mijn bezittingen uit opslag te verzamelen. Het zal aardig om aan Frans Bauer en Rene Froger zijn te luisteren op de radio
Its nice that you are trying the Dutch words for me Smurf_SMR! Thank you for that. Your Dutch is better than my English!!! How are you? Tell me some things about your hell.
And Cinderellaman, your thread at the top is tremendesly good! I posted just a few minutes ago, but the site isnt working very good. So you cant see that theres any action on your thread!
Mine isnt eighter good, there are 2 of them, but thats my own fault. I was to hasty!
You're too funny !!! xxx