Wear your rings? Yes?/No?/Why?/Why not?

[enlightenbylife]

Just wanted to know.....

I don't...Seperated

Kinda want to put it back on????


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[MissH]

I don't wear mine because I don't want to make it look like to my H that I am clinging to our M and not letting him go. I don't want him to think I am pursuing him since MLCers hate that.

I do miss wearing them. My ring finger hasn't felt the same since!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

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: )

This not always about them.

Do what you want to do.

The day I put my ring back on it took me a week or so to get used to the feel of it.

[JMC]

I would love to wear mine again. I loved wearing it (it was/is just a plain gold band, but I was proud to be married). I constantly rub my thumb where the ring was situated for 10+ years.

My MLC-WAW took her rings off the moment she moved out. I originally told myself I would leave mine on until the ink was dry. However, two days after she moved out I was walking down the hall at work and began rubbing the ring and simply broke down when I got back to my office. It has not been on my finger since (ok, one other time for a few seconds with the same result).

[Maya44]

I took mine off for a long time. I saw it every day when getting ready in the morning. When I was in C, I mentioned to him that I miss wearing it and it doesn't feel right not wearing since I'm still married. I decided to put it on again. The next time I saw C, he said he was going to recommend I wear it again to see if I feel better. I've left it on since and H doesn't seem to mind. Like Jack said, it's not about him, it's about me and my beliefs/feelings.

[MissH]

I just feel like if I was to put mine on again it would make it even harder on me in dropping the rope and letting go.

[Maya44]

I can understand that as well MrsH. I thought the same thing, that the final bomb would be harder in the end. It's hard either way though - with or without the rings on. I think it's all on how you feel and makes you feel better about things.

[KPK]

Funny I just saw this post- the topic just came up with my MLC H today. We are in the same house, but in different bedrooms, and has decided to take his off. I said I'd keep mine on unless he filed for divorce, but now I'm feeling I'm going to take mine off too- it feels desperate and untrue to me to keep them on.

[enlightenbylife]

Jack

What was the reason that you put them back on?

I feel that I'm being untrue to myself if I have them on because the marriage that was no longer exists...

I wonder what my H thinks of me not wearing mine?
I wonder if he's even noticed?
I wonder if it really matters to him?
I've never asked and I've had them off since Feb 07

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[JMC]

I wonder what my H thinks of me not wearing mine?
I wonder if he's even noticed?
I wonder if it really matters to him?
I've never asked and I've had them off since Feb 07

I have had mine off for the same amount of time and have wondered the same things.

My guess would be:
Yes they notice.
Does not matter, especially if they have theirs off.