Just found out my last thread is locked - so here are some updates.
H gave me my first ILY on Christmas Day - yeah!!! It was so good to finally hear this I literally wept with joy! Our holidays were great, we went to WI before Christmas, enjoyed playing with the kids and their new Wii, and attended a wedding on New Yrs eve - actually stayed overnight and woke to 15" of snow!
So we have been given a second chance and it really was a combo of DB'ing, my perserverance (big time) and going to Retrouvaille - H felt that helped us the most. We are not dialoguing as much as we should be but we are being very open and honest with each other and our feelings - something H has a hard time doing...
So I do believe in parts of DB'ing - especially working to change YOU and attracting your mate back (that is if they can get their head out of their a$$ long enough to see your changes are for real...).
We are truly appreciating each other and are taking it day by day - my mantra has always been BABY STEPS. Things did not go bad overnight and they will not all be fixed overnight either!!
I wish everyone a happy 2008 - these last two years I'd rather forget but can't really - they helped change me/us for the better and gave us a shot at a solid M until death do us part!!
Have a wonderful week!!
HB (not so broken anymore)
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
Its so good to hear!!! I agree, I think the tools that have been given to us through this board, and retrouvaille have made this all possible!! Keep it up!!!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
me:29, H 33 Bomb- 11/06/2006 I came home from work to find that he had moved out into an apartment. next day he says he wants to work on our marriage but will not return until he feels right. kids-4 m-10 years T- 13 years another Bomb-Sept '07 OW confirmed...
(not so broken anymore)
